My idea of dating has been shaped by US TV shows and movies. Since recently becoming single I’ve noticed that dating has changed in an incredible way to what it was just three years ago.
Three years ago I found that people were embarrassed to say they met people through online dating websites, you’d cover up the truth with something like, ‘we met during a Ke$ha song at ICBM’.
Now it seems people are happy to admit they’re using apps like Grindr and Tinder or that they flirted with a friend of a friend on a Facebook status and are now living happily ever after.
As an outsider my perspective of Grindr and Tinder is purely a way to hook-up, however several single friends who use these apps have assured me it’s not! It’s just a fun and superficial way to judge someone by their appearance before actually engaging in a conversation – reminds me of a nightclub actually.
Upon downloading Tinder for the first time I was overcome by how many people I came across on there that I already knew or that I had ‘friends in common’ with (thanks Canberra for the three degrees of separation).
My eyes were also assaulted with shirtless photos, crotch pictures and photos of cars. I one day dream of meeting my match after seeing a hairy crotch photo – don’t you?
Then when you do happen to match with someone you’re met with the always charming ‘DTF’. For those who aren’t up with the lingo of orange, drunk, media whores it means ‘down to f@ck’. Not a problem if you’re both searching for that – is a problem when your personal blurb says not looking for a hook-up.
As a single woman on Tinder you’d be hard pressed to move on from thinking that the guys are only looking for one thing. I’ve only managed from about 100 matches, 10 actual conversations with people that weren’t married, drug dependent or wanted me to send money or they won’t get their cancer treatment.
Word to the wise, online dating is still just as terrifying as 3 years ago – only now there are more people to sift through!
Samara is the Editor of Big Ink Magazine and spends her time writing and perusing the latest fashion. She doesn’t believe in true love or Prince Charming, but finding someone to enhance your life rather than hinder it.