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North Vs South: The Great Dating Divide

By 8 August 2014 14

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The north vs south rivalry is an age-old adage in Canberra. Not being a born and bred Canberran I was first introduced to it when I was 18 and house hunting with a friend, “No no, we don’t look at THAT side of the paper”. Also spending my college years south side means I know barely anyone north side and when I do head that way I clutch my GPS like I would a vodka.

Well now it turns out I’ve lived on the south side of Canberra for over 10 years and the thought of living in the north sounds just as scary as ‘North of the wall’..

I’m also a Game of Thrones fan… Any-hoo…

I didn’t know this rivalry was also a dating thing. Sure enough it’s probably just the off chance I’ve come across TWO people like this, and after a quick check with the other single friends they’ve also experienced the same.

This was on Tinder so let’s just ignore all the ‘well what do you expect’ comments and move onto the hilarity that was these two situations.

In both it turns out we were incompatible because they were north and I was south. After the initial chat stages it moved onto the ‘so where in Canberra do you live?’. Once discovered I was south side they dropped a line like ‘oh south side? That’s too far, sorry’. I realized the incompatibility had nothing to do with location.

The only thing I know about the north side is they have a lake (like the south do), they have a shopping center (like the south do) and they have just as many bogans (shock me! Like the south do!!).

So is this a thing now? Seriously. I get that from Calwell to Charnwood it can be a bit of a drive, but enough of a drive you’d rather limit your ‘pool’ of potential dates to HALF of Canberra?

What about the Queanbeyan people? Yes they love their ‘Country Living’ but they are people too, they deserve love! Or because they’re a completely different state are they off limits to us Canberrans?

Yes, yes I know not ALL men are like this, but the proof is in the pudding that some certainly are!

So what about venues? If we look at north vs south, which have the best dating spots?

My money is of course on south, with one of my favourite venues to meet people being Rum Bar. From what venues I have been north of the wall, my pick would be Sub-Urban.. it’s close enough to the city to not really count as north!

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14 Responses to
North Vs South: The Great Dating Divide
JessicaGlitter 12:21 pm
08 Aug 14
#1

Perhaps it’s just a desire to avoid the Northbourne traffic?

ausbradr 4:18 pm
08 Aug 14
#2

Too far? I’m sorry to derail this thread, but I just can’t believe this is even a thing….

Having moved from Sydney last year, a 20 minute drive from one of my North side clients to my South side home is bliss coming from the 1-3 hour commutes (depending on how many idiots had accidents that day) home.

I say anyone that complains about travel between anywhere in the ACT has had it too good for too long, and hasn’t experienced otherwise.

Back on the whole dating thing, your location makes no difference. This comes from my own personal experience. I went to school in western Sydney, my partner went to school in the pointy end of the eastern suburbs. We’ve recently celebrated 5 years together. If you have anyone so wrapped up in “distance”, they’re obviously a flog, save your time and move on.

Samara Gentle 12:15 pm
09 Aug 14
#3

ausbradr said :

Too far? I’m sorry to derail this thread, but I just can’t believe this is even a thing….

Having moved from Sydney last year, a 20 minute drive from one of my North side clients to my South side home is bliss coming from the 1-3 hour commutes (depending on how many idiots had accidents that day) home.

I say anyone that complains about travel between anywhere in the ACT has had it too good for too long, and hasn’t experienced otherwise.

Back on the whole dating thing, your location makes no difference. This comes from my own personal experience. I went to school in western Sydney, my partner went to school in the pointy end of the eastern suburbs. We’ve recently celebrated 5 years together. If you have anyone so wrapped up in “distance”, they’re obviously a flog, save your time and move on.

I have to agree! Us Canberrans are very spoilt when it comes to traffic and roads!

Maya123 12:38 pm
09 Aug 14
#4

ausbradr said :

Too far? I’m sorry to derail this thread, but I just can’t believe this is even a thing….

Having moved from Sydney last year, a 20 minute drive from one of my North side clients to my South side home is bliss coming from the 1-3 hour commutes (depending on how many idiots had accidents that day) home.

I say anyone that complains about travel between anywhere in the ACT has had it too good for too long, and hasn’t experienced otherwise.

Back on the whole dating thing, your location makes no difference. This comes from my own personal experience. I went to school in western Sydney, my partner went to school in the pointy end of the eastern suburbs. We’ve recently celebrated 5 years together. If you have anyone so wrapped up in “distance”, they’re obviously a flog, save your time and move on.

“Having moved from Sydney last year”

Having moved from a country town and experienced traffic elsewhere, there is lots more traffic here and in comparison it takes ages to travel across the city.

Perceptions are made by past experiences. There are more experiences than Sydney, which in my opinion is the ‘pits’.

watto23 12:56 pm
09 Aug 14
#5

Canberrans have warped views of the world and we apparently always think we are being screwed over somehow…. Probably because everyone outside Canberra only has bad things to say. That said I can drive from Tuggers to top of Gungahlin in 40 odd minutes. In any other city you’d be lucky to meet someone within say a 30minute drive. I have 2 friends in London who couldn’t believe their luck that they lived 5 minutes apart. Previously dating meant at least an hour each way!

As to my own experiences, yes I’ve had many knockbacks due to location. I’ve never knocked back anyone from the Northside, i don’t get it and I’ve lived here for over 30 years. One could say it just the snobby northsiders but then that would be me doing my part to help the northside/southside rivalry.

And yes there are plenty of bogans on both sides of town, as well as university educated chardonnay drinkers, and any other sterotype. We don’t really have the congregations of sterotypes like other cities have.

chewy14 4:24 pm
09 Aug 14
#6

It’s Tinder.

Do you know how much petrol costs? No one wants to play that kind of away game regularly.

dkNigs 11:18 am
10 Aug 14
#7

Really, it’s a hell of a lot cheaper dating someone closer, from petrol, to going on dates, to having somewhere to go that isn’t an RSL and be able to get a taxi home for under $60 :p.

Northsiders have it too good :p

nazasaurus 3:01 pm
10 Aug 14
#8

Sorry but I think this is non issue. Sure it might be easier if the other person lived close by but anyone looking to date seriously wouldn’t even care. As for venues, again, isn’t it kind of obvious, the demographics of the area impact on the types of venues and people who frequent them..so pick and choose accordingly.

arescarti42 11:23 pm
10 Aug 14
#9

Maya123 said :

ausbradr said :

Too far? I’m sorry to derail this thread, but I just can’t believe this is even a thing….

Having moved from Sydney last year, a 20 minute drive from one of my North side clients to my South side home is bliss coming from the 1-3 hour commutes (depending on how many idiots had accidents that day) home.

I say anyone that complains about travel between anywhere in the ACT has had it too good for too long, and hasn’t experienced otherwise.

“Having moved from Sydney last year”

Having moved from a country town and experienced traffic elsewhere, there is lots more traffic here and in comparison it takes ages to travel across the city.

Perceptions are made by past experiences. There are more experiences than Sydney, which in my opinion is the ‘pits’.

Exactly.

Sydney isn’t the norm here, most big cities in Europe and the US don’t have traffic congestion anywhere near as bad as Sydney (or even Melbourne and Brisbane).

Frankly, if I have to drive in any direction for more than about 15 minutes, I’m going to think twice about whether I really want to make the trip. Thrice if there’s lots of traffic lights involved.

miz 8:43 am
11 Aug 14
#10

“somewhere to go that isn’t an RSL” – isn’t the biggest club in the north?

HiddenDragon 6:38 pm
13 Aug 14
#11

This sounds like think globally, act locally gone tragically wrong.

Dame Edna had a line about her daughter and son-in-law “she’s a Melbourne girl and he’s a Sydney boy – I told them about mixed marriages, but they won’t listen…..”

Kalliste 9:31 pm
13 Aug 14
#12

Maya123 said :

ausbradr said :

Too far? I’m sorry to derail this thread, but I just can’t believe this is even a thing….

Having moved from Sydney last year, a 20 minute drive from one of my North side clients to my South side home is bliss coming from the 1-3 hour commutes (depending on how many idiots had accidents that day) home.

I say anyone that complains about travel between anywhere in the ACT has had it too good for too long, and hasn’t experienced otherwise.

Back on the whole dating thing, your location makes no difference. This comes from my own personal experience. I went to school in western Sydney, my partner went to school in the pointy end of the eastern suburbs. We’ve recently celebrated 5 years together. If you have anyone so wrapped up in “distance”, they’re obviously a flog, save your time and move on.

“Having moved from Sydney last year”

Having moved from a country town and experienced traffic elsewhere, there is lots more traffic here and in comparison it takes ages to travel across the city.

Perceptions are made by past experiences. There are more experiences than Sydney, which in my opinion is the ‘pits’.

Agreed. I was up in Sydney last week and even as a passenger the traffic was so frustrating. We left the hotel/work conference at 4:20PM and started the drive back to Canberra. It took an hr and a half to get any faster than 40km/hr.

The traffic is one of the main reasons I wouldn’t want to live in Sydney. Why would I want to waste so much time in a car/bus/etc? Especially if it’s doing something like going to work!

Yes, comparatively, Canberra has it better traffic wise than Sydney but it doesn’t change the fact that it takes long enough to get from Gungahlin to Tuggeranong to consider not doing it at all. Where a relationship is concerned I wouldn’t have an issue making the effort (although on Action buses it makes for a loooonng journey) but with work I will never accept a job that is south because I don’t want to spend 1- 2hrs getting to and from work. I could be doing things I actually enjoy with that time.

Mess 8:39 am
14 Aug 14
#13

One of the benefits of dating someone on the other side of town is that if things go sour chances of running into them at the local shops are quite low.

dkNigs 9:58 pm
14 Aug 14
#14

On the flipside, if things go well, one of you will most likely have to leave your friends behind to move with the other.

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