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RIP Damian

By 31 March 2009 58

At Cook shops today I came upon a bunch of flowers, and a sad note informing customers that Damian Caesar has passed on suddenly.

For those of you who didn’t know him, Damian was a quite profoundly disabled  chap, who used to sell lollies and other items outside Cook shops, to raise funds for the ACT “Boccia” team, (a sport for the wheelchair bound.)

Despite his disabilities, Damian was always happy and chatty, and regulars users of Cook shops, would always stop and pass the time of day with him when he was outside.

I will miss his cheery; “Alright matey!?” when I go down there. He was a decent chap, and the world has lost a colourful character.

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58 Responses to RIP Damian
#1
p13:34 pm, 31 Mar 09

Damn, I was talking to him about what a lovely afternoon for a beer it was just a week ago. I’ll be having one in his name this weekend.

#2
Gobbo3:47 pm, 31 Mar 09

I was a regular buyer of Damian’s chockies.

I’ll have to check out the funeral details. I owe him one last “Hoo-roo”.

#3
Granny4:28 pm, 31 Mar 09

Life is so sad sometimes.

This sort of story always affects me quite profoundly. I identify quite strongly because of the situation with my own child, so it’s a bit raw and emotional.

Isn’t it wonderful that he was in the world, though? What an inspiring individual!

I am sure a lot of people will turn up to pay their last respects, and will be a silent witness to his influence in their lives.

Really, really lovely posts.

#4
Pommy bastard5:42 pm, 31 Mar 09

I’d love to pay my last respects Granny, the funeral is at Northpark Crem, 4.30 Thursday.

Unfortunately I don’t think work will give me the time off to go to the funeral of “A guy who once sold me some shower gel which brought me out in a rash”*, no matter how I phrase it.

But you are right, people who struggle against the confines of disability, and still manage to keep a sunny smile for the rest of the world are a blessing.

*Boy did he have a hoot when my wife told him about that!

#5
Hells_Bells746:07 pm, 31 Mar 09

Ohhh that’s so sad. I’ll miss our chats at the Labor Club.

Hope they bury him with his pool cue.

R.I.P

#6
Granny6:14 pm, 31 Mar 09

Pommy bastard said :

*Boy did he have a hoot when my wife told him about that!

It is very noble to go to such lengths for the entertainment of others, PB!

*lol*

#7
Pommy bastard6:17 pm, 31 Mar 09

It became a running joke between us.

Damn, I’m filling up again…

#8
Granny6:28 pm, 31 Mar 09

Just let it out, PB. It’s better that way.

He was your friend in the way that little kids make friends. You don’t need to know names or where each other lives or what cereal you have for breakfast. You just meet each other and it’s “Hello” and that’s enough. Sort of like we all are on RA.

We have to bury little kids sometimes. We just hold each other and cry and let it out, and when the sun rises the next day life goes on and we go on with it.

I’m so sorry.

#9
Pommy bastard6:29 pm, 31 Mar 09

Thanks Granny, very astute and understanding of you.

#10
Bundybear6:40 pm, 31 Mar 09

PB, what if you just told the boss you want to go to the funeral of a mate?

What a brilliant surprise to find this post with such sensitive comments from the Riotact rabble. Damian was elected president of the Boccia club some time ago, and was easily the most enthusiastic and successful fundraiser in the club. I suspect part of his success came from his enjoyment of the opportunity to have a chat to people, the chockies and other goodies becoming merely a prop to get the conversation started.

This came right out of the blue, no warning at all. Sometimes that’s the nicest way to go though, while life is cruising along pretty well, and things are good.

My son T is a member of the Boccia club, you can bet they’ll all be there to see him off. Me too.

#11
Granny6:52 pm, 31 Mar 09

Well, if my little girl grows up I know that there is nothing more I would want for her than to be accepted and held in affection by society the way you guys have embraced Damian.

I don’t think you will ever know how much you have probably enriched his life also.

#12
Pommy bastard6:53 pm, 31 Mar 09

Bundybear, can you post the details of how people who knew, or were acquainted with, Damian, can make a donation to the Boccia club? I’ll happily make up a poster and see if Nick at the shops will give it some prominence.

In lieu of attending his funeral I’d very much like to make a donation in his name, seeing as I won’t be able to buy lollies, or dodgy shower gel, off him again.

#13
Panhead6:57 pm, 31 Mar 09

Always said g’day when I ducked in to the shops. Nice bloke. RIP.

#14
Granny7:03 pm, 31 Mar 09

Or what about a memorial plaque for the Boccia club? Or outside the shops?

#15
Bundybear7:28 pm, 31 Mar 09

PB, I’m sure T or one of the others would be happy to keep up the supply of shower gel if you reeeaalllyyy want it. :-)

I’ll be happy to track some details for a donation. Get back to you after I talk to the powers that be.

#16
Special G8:34 pm, 31 Mar 09

Top bloke. Would chat with him at the shops all the time. Saw him at the Playgroups day, happy and smiling as usual.

#17
astrojax9:15 pm, 31 Mar 09

what a sad story and some uplifting memories – i never knew him, but like this about riotact that some of these local anecdotes come out.

we need more of them on people before they shuffle off…

godspeed, damian.

#18
GardeningGirl10:41 am, 01 Apr 09

I didn’t even know him, not my part of town, but I’m tearing up.

#19
Hells_Bells7411:14 am, 01 Apr 09

Granny said :

Well, if my little girl grows up I know that there is nothing more I would want for her than to be accepted and held in affection by society the way you guys have embraced Damian.

I don’t think you will ever know how much you have probably enriched his life also.

The spirit is beyond the shell. The only handicapped are the ones who can’t see it.

I have had the biggest place in my heart for Damian for years and others especially those great group of Down’s men that shared the buses, they are too funny and regulary have me in stitches and one of them even thinks I’m his girlfriend (I mostly just humour him gently and give me a kiss on the cheek and a giant hug, but he plays up of course, but easy enough to keep him on track, but he always wanted me to come over for a beer lol) and my young son adored them.

Anyhow *hugs* for you Granny, I admire you and anyone helping raise these gorgeous souls because don’t worry they bring joy to many too.

#20
Hells_Bells7411:44 am, 01 Apr 09

Bit sad I’m not on the buses hardly now and don’t see many of my fave spirits as much. They are all still in my heart though and we love running into them even more now :)

#21
Damians_Mum12:10 pm, 01 Apr 09

Hi everyone – My friend put me onto you. Damian loved you all and I laughed out loud about the shower gel PB!

Damian’s funeral is Thursday 4:30pm at Norwood Park Crematorium and then we’re having light refreshments at the Hawker Bleconnen Soccer Club till 7:30pm so maybe you can make that PB

We are grateful to the entire Cook community for your support and friendship of Damian

He loved life and loved talking to everyone – all the time – everyone made him feel special and he made everyone he met feel special too.

Granny – you take care
See ya later Mateys – as my little love would have said!

Claire

#22
Madame Workalot12:13 pm, 01 Apr 09

Your loss is felt by the entire community, Damian’s Mum. I hope you’re incredibly proud.

Best of luck xo

#23
Hells_Bells7412:14 pm, 01 Apr 09

Big *hugs* for Damian’s Mum.

#24
ant12:14 pm, 01 Apr 09

We always seem to lose the good people.

#25
deezagood12:17 pm, 01 Apr 09

Thanks for that lovely post Claire; I didn’t know your son, but it certainly sounds as though he brought much joy to many people in Canberra (those lucky enough to have met him). It also sounds as though he was extremely blessed to have a Mum like you. I am so very sorry for your loss.

#26
The Brad12:33 pm, 01 Apr 09

Clair’s words touched me, and reminded me of this verse.

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

Alfred Lord Tennyson – In Memoriam

#27
peterh12:42 pm, 01 Apr 09

deezagood said :

Thanks for that lovely post Claire; I didn’t know your son, but it certainly sounds as though he brought much joy to many people in Canberra (those lucky enough to have met him). It also sounds as though he was extremely blessed to have a Mum like you. I am so very sorry for your loss.

+1

#28
Pommy bastard1:14 pm, 01 Apr 09

Thanks Claire, I think the words spoken here by those who knew Damian, if only, like myself, as someone to pass a few words with down at the shops, stand as tribute to a much loved peron, we are all diminished by his passing.

#29
Granny1:38 pm, 01 Apr 09

That was beautiful, The Brad. How true!

Damians_mum, I hope you are being carried on the wings of good friends that can make a decent casserole and a nice cup of tea.

My heart goes out to you in every way. I have such admiration and respect. You take care, also.

Anything I can do …. Granny1963@gmail.com

Thankyou for the hugs, Hells_Bells74.

: )

You know you’ve made me cry!

The very best of RiotACT. Love you guys.

xx
Granny

#30
Bundybear6:04 pm, 01 Apr 09

PB Details you requested for donations (tax deductible) are : ACT Boccia, 7 Dyring Place, Chisholm, ACT 2905.

This post does indeed show the very best side of RiotACT. You can always count on Granny to say the right thing in a situation like this, but it’s brilliant to read the rest of these comments. There is hope, World!

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