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Where are all the men?

By Samara Gentle - 11 July 2014 42

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A question asked by a lot of my single friends and if you’ve lived in Canberra long enough you’d know that certain night spots have reputations as to the type of men they attract.

In case you didn’t know or it’s been so long since you’ve been on the dating scene, let me help you.

Mooseheads

Mooseheads is entirely dependent on which floor you happen to be on. Ground Floor or lower you’re likely to find men from defence and NRL fans, whereas if you head upstairs to the ‘nightclub’ levels you’ll run into barely legal 18 year olds celebrating their first night out drinking!

Academy

If you’re a fan of electronica then Academy is the place to meet your potential spirit animal, full of guys leaping around to techno music you might not have a deep and meaningful conversation but you’ll have a laugh and a dance.

Treehouse

Fairly new on the scene Treehouse has become a standard public service hangout with good lunchtime specials and a very chilled bar vibe. I’ve found Treehouse a good place to meet young and social public servants.

Molly

Another new kid on the block is Molly and although I haven’t been myself, my single gal pals say it’s a great place to meet ANU students with the occasional public servant thrown in. No surprises given how close it is to ANU and its student housing.

Uni Pub

Similar to Mooseheads, the kind of guys you’ll meet at Uni Pub depends on the floor you go to. Mostly it’s full of uni students, footy fans and hospitality workers. They also run a yearly Valentine’s Day singles event for those who like the idea of the traffic light wristbands.

Honkytonks

The few times I’ve been to Honkytonks (usually a Friday after work) I get the distinct creative vibe. The people there are usually public servants, but the ones that also have something creative going on outside those government walls. Artists, musicians, entrepreneurs and the like tend to hang out here.

Samara is the Editor of Big Ink Magazine and spends her time writing and perusing the latest fashion. She doesn’t believe in true love or Prince Charming, but finding someone to enhance your life rather than hinder it.

Now time for the other locals to weigh in – what are your thoughts on the above venues and the types you’ll meet there?

What’s Your opinion?


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Where are all the men?
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Mels 5:04 pm
11 Jul 14
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And for the older crowd (late 30’s-40’s) who still enjoy a good laugh, a drink and good music, any suggestions for where we can go to meet people and not be surrounded by pretty young things, mindless thumping music and drinks prices that only those without a mortgage and family can afford?

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Diverdownunder 6:08 pm
11 Jul 14
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I’m in my early 40’s and I don’t date. I found when becoming single 8 years ago, after a long relationship that started in my teens, that it’s hard to date here when you don’t drink and like the pub club scene.

Prefer to keep to myself- I have a good job, a few good friends and some
Interests to keep busy.

Often wonder where the over 35’s go out to?

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ausbradr 7:53 pm
11 Jul 14
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I can’t give you the most accurate advice having been out of the whole dating thing for about 5 years! I can however suggest some more obscure places you could meet like minded people.

Alternative: NV Nightclub It’s on Northbourne avenue. It’s mostly young people into hard electronic music, although they host other sorts of nights too, such as Valhalla (a metal night) and Chrome (a gothic / industrial night). Look their pages up on facebook for more info on the next nights.

On the subject of alternative nights, Vamp is hosted at Magpies on Bunda street occasionally. Once again, best place to look is facebook to keep up with their monthly events. Another place to find gatherings of Canberrans with alternative (GLBT, fetish, etc) lifestyles is also on fetlife. Not going to link it here, but just google it, search Canberra on there, and join the community. Also Mods, please let me know if that was inappropriate here to suggest fet, and feel free to edit out accordingly!

Hackerspace: For the uninitiated, a hackerspace is a place where creative, usually free-thinking individuals can gather, and have a space that dwarves their garage in terms of size and equipment. They gather to discuss projects and make things like 3d printed goods, electronics, beer, flying toys and other such madness happen. We have one called MakeHackVoid in Belconnen. It’s run by good people and very fun even if you’re not there to meet people!

Garema Place: You’ll meet some friendly faces here, before being swiftly issued with a direct debit form to donate to some charity that the mugger gets a cut from. I guess you could get a date out of that if you played your cards right?

Hope that helps!

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bigfeet 9:40 pm
11 Jul 14
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Mels said :

And for the older crowd (late 30’s-40’s) who still enjoy a good laugh, a drink and good music, any suggestions for where we can go to meet people and not be surrounded by pretty young things, mindless thumping music and drinks prices that only those without a mortgage and family can afford?

Boorowa RSL?

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rommeldog56 10:24 pm
11 Jul 14
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Where are all the men ? Well, probably sitting at home watching the footy on Foxtel or looking online at women’s profiles, most of who who want a “soul mate”, “someone who can make me laugh”, “a life partner”, “a man who is well off and financially secure”, etc. Groan.

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pink little birdie 11:44 pm
11 Jul 14
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I have the opposite problem. I set up all my girlfriend’s friends with my fiancee male friends (all married or talking about marriage long term relationships) and now I’m out of women to introduce to the guys

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gooterz 12:03 am
12 Jul 14
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I find Canberra women to be fairly shallow.
Not all the blokes hang out in clubs but that fact seems to escape the many.

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Mysteryman 8:58 am
12 Jul 14
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Here’s a novel idea: stop looking in nightspots. Try something different. If you aren’t prepared to try something different, then accept the shallowness of the pool you have to select from.

The kind of blokes who are keepers aren’t likely to be hanging around a bar or nightclub looking for whatever they can get.

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milkman 9:28 am
12 Jul 14
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Try washing off some of the desperate and you might do better.

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patrick_keogh 9:36 am
12 Jul 14
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Mysteryman said :

Here’s a novel idea: stop looking in nightspots. Try something different. If you aren’t prepared to try something different, then accept the shallowness of the pool you have to select from.

The kind of blokes who are keepers aren’t likely to be hanging around a bar or nightclub looking for whatever they can get.

Spot on.

In some senses I am probably the least qualified person to talk about dating and meeting up… I only tried it once for several months back in the ’70s, but it was successful :-) In any event being poorly qualified to comment does not seem to be an inhibitor at TRA, so here is my two cents.

If you are after a “keeper” in Mysterman’s words, then I’d take that to mean at least someone who is prepared to put the time and effort into something that they enjoy and value. Ausbradr made the suggestion of Hackerspace, which might appeal to some, but think about it further.

Interested in a partner who loves classical music, poetry, books? Probably not in Tongue and Groove at 1am. Try book clubs, dance classes, classical concerts etc.

Love the outdoor life? Try orienteering clubs, horse riding groups etc. You get the picture. Real people are off doing real things and that is where you will find them.

We all go to pubs and clubs of course, but when I look around there it looks like slim pickings for either gender/orientation.

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chewy14 9:49 am
12 Jul 14
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Mysteryman said :

Here’s a novel idea: stop looking in nightspots. Try something different. If you aren’t prepared to try something different, then accept the shallowness of the pool you have to select from.

The kind of blokes who are keepers aren’t likely to be hanging around a bar or nightclub looking for whatever they can get.

Who says people who hang around bars and nightclubs are looking for “whatever they can get”?

Nah , I suppose you’re right, decent and respectful folk only hang around church or the library and other fun fun exciting places.

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Postalgeek 9:50 am
12 Jul 14
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Take up mountain biking, or even just cycling. Last time I looked you’ll find more fit, educated, motivated men driving Subaru Foresters than you can poke a stick at. And even if you strike out, you get some exercise.

Or you could try Landcare Speed Planting single days.

Or you could continue to trawl clubs and pubs where everyone is drunk, jostling, yelling to be heard over unremarkable music, queuing, and generally participating in an unfavourable environment for dating.

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dungfungus 12:52 pm
12 Jul 14
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Postalgeek said :

Take up mountain biking, or even just cycling. Last time I looked you’ll find more fit, educated, motivated men driving Subaru Foresters than you can poke a stick at. And even if you strike out, you get some exercise.

Or you could try Landcare Speed Planting single days.

Or you could continue to trawl clubs and pubs where everyone is drunk, jostling, yelling to be heard over unremarkable music, queuing, and generally participating in an unfavourable environment for dating.

If you are looking for a tall person, forget anyone that drives a Subaru Forester.

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nazasaurus 1:41 pm
12 Jul 14
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milkman said :

Try washing off some of the desperate and you might do better.

Why the sneering condescension? There is nothing wrong with going out looking nice and expecting to meet new people, have good conversation and flirt with the view of something more potentially? and who says it has to be a loud sweaty club? There are plenty of nice bars where you can have a civilised conversation and meet someone if that’s what you want. Something I have noticed with Canberra is that once you turn 30 you just stay at home and aren’t expected to do the above, and if you do you are likely to be disappointed with the talent. The men that I have seen out don’t put much effort into their appearance and wont approach a women to say hi in a non drunk state. More over 30s need to get out, put some effort in and socialise.

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arescarti42 6:03 pm
12 Jul 14
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Just be thankful that LovePlus hasn’t been released for the English language market yet…

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