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Recommendations for Marriage Counselling?

By CaptainCook - 22 May 2009 25

I’m asking this one because of the absolute criticality of getting the right person to flesh out and work through the issues involved. 

We have seen one counsellor and the man was absolutely terrible – all he wanted to do was to get us to “forget the past, focus on the love”.  All very well, this may work in some cases, but we need someone who will listen, analyse and take no excuses/crap from either of us.  We both understand that we have issues that need resolution, but we need a no-nonsense 3rd party to really spell out the stuff that neither of us will be happy with at first, but that will bring the real issues to the fore.

All suggestions would be very, very welcome, as I really, really want to try to get this right.

What’s Your opinion?


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25 Responses to
Recommendations for Marriage Counselling?
dvaey 2:39 pm 22 May 09

Centacare (used to be near Griffith) has counsellors, who will work with both couples and individuals. I had good experiences with them in the past, as they just act as the neutral 3rd party.

Bells 2:00 pm 22 May 09

Aileen Howe, a psychologist in O’Connor is excellent.

Mistress M 12:42 pm 22 May 09

A life coach I know (but haven’t used yet) is now extremely happy on his second marriage I believe. If children are involved there are obviously more issues at hand and their blended family works wonderfully. This guy’s wife is a marriage celebrant too so check out http://www.becoached.com.au/page/?pid=470

deezagood 12:13 pm 22 May 09

Woody Mann-Caruso said :

Google for the ‘four horsemen of marriage’ (or John Gottman, the guy who needs 3 minutes to tell with about 95% accuracy whether your marriage is doomed). quote]

Hey Woody – really good links. I just did the Gottman quiz … (not doomed … whew!)

mutley 12:10 pm 22 May 09

Do these counselling services also do civil union counselling?

Only when both chicks are hot?

caf 12:07 pm 22 May 09

Normally you’re a voice of reason, WMC, but this advice sounds like it amounts to “self-diagnose based on stuff you can read on the internet”, which is only just above “Send an SMS with your and your partner’s name to service advertised during Video Hits” in my book.

VYBerlinaV8_the_one_ 11:38 am 22 May 09

Do these counselling services also do civil union counselling?

Woody Mann-Caruso 10:34 am 22 May 09

Google for the ‘four horsemen of marriage’ (or John Gottman, the guy who needs 3 minutes to tell with about 95% accuracy whether your marriage is doomed). If:

– you’re anything past a couple of horsemen, and one or both of you is displaying a lack of positive affect (ie emotional withdrawal about the whole thing), or

– one of both of you has gone directly to ‘contempt’

save your money. Separate now while you’re still semi-amicable – you’ll still be able to meet each other in the street and not spit on one another, and you’ll save a fortune in solicitors’ costs as well.

Steady Eddie 10:00 am 22 May 09

Forget the past, focus on the love . . .

tortfeaser 9:40 am 22 May 09

Before we got married we went to the Anglican counselling mob in Auburn, so probably not a viable option for you.

But let me just say good on you for wanting to put in the effort to make your marriage work. Its hard first to admit a problem, harder to take the steps to fix it when so many find the easiest option is to give up. Top effort.

poptop 9:25 am 22 May 09

Why not work through your issues here?

You’d get plenty of no nonsense advice from a broad range of 3rd parties and for free!

. . . or perhaps not.

Sammy 9:18 am 22 May 09

As ladywriter mentioned, see a psychologist.

I can highly recommend Professional Psychology Services in Woden.

http://www.professionalpsychologyservices.com.au/index.html

Devil_n_Disquiz 9:15 am 22 May 09
ladywriter 9:04 am 22 May 09

See a psychologist rather than a marriage counsellor. They will do sessions with both of you and then individually if you need it. I have been seeing cpru psychology at Deakin (for family issues rather than marriage counselling) and have found them to be brilliant.
http://www.cprupsych.com/. They are not cheap but are covered by Medicare if you get a referral from your GP.

Good luck!

Bam Bam 8:59 am 22 May 09

Relationships Australia in Deakin

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