I’m asking this one because of the absolute criticality of getting the right person to flesh out and work through the issues involved.
We have seen one counsellor and the man was absolutely terrible – all he wanted to do was to get us to “forget the past, focus on the love”. All very well, this may work in some cases, but we need someone who will listen, analyse and take no excuses/crap from either of us. We both understand that we have issues that need resolution, but we need a no-nonsense 3rd party to really spell out the stuff that neither of us will be happy with at first, but that will bring the real issues to the fore.
All suggestions would be very, very welcome, as I really, really want to try to get this right.