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Help! How to get rid of a room mate ??

By Genie 31 May 2012 120

Riot-Act hive mind I am seeking your advice on how to evict a room mate/boarder, short of illegally changing the locks on them.
 
My partner owns the house we live in, and currently we rent out the other 2 bedrooms to our freeloader tenants. I’ll call them B1 & B2. Our main issue is with B1.
 
One of the boarders (B1) has been living there for about 18months or so, and they currently owe several months rent & bills. We are over the excuses as to why B1 WONT pay rent (boy there are some good ones) and have asked them to pay up what is owed and leave. It has also gotten to the point that the second boarder, B2 (who moved in earlier this year) is insisting they shouldn’t have to pay their rent, because B1 doesn’t pay anything.
 
To give you an idea this is what it is like to live with B1 at the moment:
– B1 loves to complain… about EVERYTHING !
– About the only cleaning B1 does, is mowing the dirt every other month. This includes the lack of cleaning up after themselves.
– They will quite happily pile their dirty dishes up on the sink all week and then complain there is no clean dishes. (we have a dishwasher.. it’s not that hard to pack and unpack it, but we are over cleaning up after them)
– B1 doesn’t like to buy “shared groceries” such as milk or dunny paper. Complains constantly when we run out instead of buying it themself.
– B1 carries on like it’s WW3 should you eat/drink anything THEY pay for. But will quite happily help themselves to any other food in the house and comes running like a starving animal if they know we have bought home bread or milk.
– Complained and acted like a 3 year old when we disconnected the internet and put a lock on the Foxtel.
– B1 will be in shorts and a t-shirt and complain it’s cold, duh it’s almost winter. Instead of putting warmer clothes on, B1 will just turn the heater on.
– heaven forbid you make noise late Sunday arvo because B1 is trying to sleep
– I could go on……..
 
While it’s kind of funny to put up with B1, we can no longer afford to support 2 room mates who don’t pay their way or help with household chores and would like both of them to move out ASAP.
 
As there is no written agreement (all done over a gentleman’s handshake) the best advice ACAT can give us is to provide them with a ‘Notice to Remedy” to pay back rent and if they fail to comply we can then issue a “Termination Notice” to evict them. This potentially allows them to stay in the property for another 2 months without paying a cent before we can legally evict them and change the locks.
 
So I’m turning it over to you… suggestions to speed up the process and be room mate free ASAP ? Or to try and get our money ?

What’s Your opinion?


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jessieduck 1:38 pm 06 Sep 12

Ohhhh. Loving the insights.

I’m worried Genie is knocked up after the vomiting over the state of the kitchen.

carnardly 1:34 pm 06 Sep 12

is a big heart meant to make up for no cajones..? Not in my world it wouldn’t.

deejay 12:08 pm 06 Sep 12

Genie said :

FXST01 said :

Well Genie, what was the outcome? Did you kick his worthless hide out? Inquiring minds wants to know.

Mr Genie has too big of a heart and won’t kick him out. I’ve now been told end of October. I can tell you that conversation didn’t end nicely. It’s already been 3 long months of torture. 0_o

Genie, you don’t need a guy like this. A guy who won’t throw out a room mate who does the dirty on you, also won’t defend you when his mother criticises your childrearing, or move on from a job that’s killing your family life, or stand up for your kids when they need medical treatment and the doctor says it’s just a virus. You’re letting yourself in for a lifetime of being the only adult in the relationship. There are plenty of good guys out there right now who will advocate for the quality of your life together.

Genie 5:32 pm 05 Sep 12

FXST01 said :

Genie said :

carnardly said :

did Mr Genie ever grow enough cajones to boot this guy out….

wonders what happened in the end….?

Not yet ! Mr Genie almost has all of his money paid back and I believe B1 will be given 30 days notice next Friday. It has kinda been worth putting up with him now that the debt has been getting paid off.

On the other hand B2 didn’t come home for a month and moved out one day while we were all at work.

Mr Genie sure knows how to pick them.

Well Genie, what was the outcome? Did you kick his worthless hide out? Inquiring minds wants to know.

Mr Genie has too big of a heart and won’t kick him out. I’ve now been told end of October. I can tell you that conversation didn’t end nicely. It’s already been 3 long months of torture. 0_o

FXST01 2:51 pm 31 Aug 12

Genie said :

carnardly said :

did Mr Genie ever grow enough cajones to boot this guy out….

wonders what happened in the end….?

Not yet ! Mr Genie almost has all of his money paid back and I believe B1 will be given 30 days notice next Friday. It has kinda been worth putting up with him now that the debt has been getting paid off.

On the other hand B2 didn’t come home for a month and moved out one day while we were all at work.

Mr Genie sure knows how to pick them.

Well Genie, what was the outcome? Did you kick his worthless hide out? Inquiring minds wants to know.

Genie 2:03 pm 24 Aug 12

carnardly said :

did Mr Genie ever grow enough cajones to boot this guy out….

wonders what happened in the end….?

Not yet ! Mr Genie almost has all of his money paid back and I believe B1 will be given 30 days notice next Friday. It has kinda been worth putting up with him now that the debt has been getting paid off.

On the other hand B2 didn’t come home for a month and moved out one day while we were all at work.

Mr Genie sure knows how to pick them.

carnardly 1:24 pm 24 Aug 12

did Mr Genie ever grow enough cajones to boot this guy out….

wonders what happened in the end….?

Genie 4:47 pm 23 Jun 12

Postalgeek said :

Genie said :

As soon as the back pay is all paid off – Adios !!!

The only sensible thing to do.

And find out where you stand with throwing away personal effects, because people like him will leave a lot of crap behind. It’s not that they don’t want it, but they are lazy. You will want to be perfectly clear that it will be junked if it doesn’t go with him. If he has anything remotely like a bond (hahaha), reserve a couple of hundred that will be returned when all his gear is out. Otherwise use it to rent the skip.

Postal Geek – Since I watch waaaayy too much Judge Judy and People’s Court and have had a former coworker go to court many years ago because his room mates put his stuff outside in the rain (they just didn’t like him and found someone else to move in – nothing to do with lack of paid rent etc)
It is my understanding we have to give them a reasonable amount of time to collect their belongings anywhere from 30-90 days (?? TBC I think it may even have to be up to 6 months) after that date it’s off the tip.
I think this involves something along the lines of a written letter saying you have ‘x’ days to collect then another warning 7 days before we throw everything out.

If it comes to it, his parents only live 5mins around the corner… might just dump any work related belongings on their front lawn. They shouldn’t have their business items thrown out and suffer.

Genie 4:42 pm 23 Jun 12

I-filed said :

Genie said :

Turns out B1’s mother HAS been paying him for all the work he’s doing …

What age group are we talking here? Is this ongoing dysfunction just the behaviour of a bunch of spoilt brats? In which case – do spare us!

I’m ashamed to admit he’s in his 30’s.

Henry82 11:36 am 23 Jun 12

HenryBG said :

Put a lock on the crockery cupboard. Lock everything away after washing up. Tell him to get his own crockery. Anything left in the sink for more than 4 hours goes outside in a designated spot..

I’ve suggested a similar thing before to friends. Just take all the crockery that belongs to you to your room. The problem is people like the OP just give in and wash it first, which basically encourages the bad housemate.

HenryBG 8:55 am 23 Jun 12

Genie said :

It infuriates me that my partner currently works 70+ hours a week 7 days a week and these lazy buggers wont even clean up after themselves.. to the point where I threw up over the stench and state of the kitchen the other night. (4 days worth of unrinsed plates/pots/roasting dishes & saucepans smell pretty disgusting, esp when you’re extremely nauscious). My partner barely has time to scratch his butt, let alone deal with B1 being a freeloader.

Put a lock on the crockery cupboard. Lock everything away after washing up. Tell him to get his own crockery. Anything left in the sink for more than 4 hours goes outside in a designated spot.

Oh, and name him.
Make sure his mummy reads Riot Act.

DanielK 9:38 pm 22 Jun 12

This is a fantastic post.

I can’t wait for the next instalment of this soap. Will B1s mother be true to her word and pay outstanding and weekly rent? Or will she have trouble transferring the funds electronically and millions of dollars are accidentally deposited into the Westpacaccount of a Kiwi service station manager who absconds to Macau with his new vivacious blond girlfriend formerly known as the realLara Bingle.

Will poor suffering partner find out how much of his private business has been splashed over the pages of Canberras newest tabloid entertainment mag – the Riot Act – and of the readers’ slagging off his character and manlihood based on a very jaundiced interpretation of his part in the saga?

And what of B2? Will he remain the bit player or will he develop maniacal tendencies and force his roomates to endure his countless failed audition tapes for Big Brother, the Bachelorette Bonython and Survivor Canberra?

And finally.Will ForrestWhittakerand his chums from theBehavioural Analysis Unit piece together the many remnants of Genie’s thoughts, character traits, ambitions and reasonings displayed in many regular posts and dialogues and come up with the fact that she really is Gina Rinehart’s younger daughter looking for a life and a place to stay now that her mother has moved on from the other kids to fry bigger fish?

The name of the soap? What else: I Scream at Genie

screaming banshee 7:49 pm 22 Jun 12

My spidey senses tell me this isn’t the end of the story

I-filed 7:24 pm 22 Jun 12

Genie said :

Turns out B1’s mother HAS been paying him for all the work he’s doing …

What age group are we talking here? Is this ongoing dysfunction just the behaviour of a bunch of spoilt brats? In which case – do spare us!

Postalgeek 7:19 pm 22 Jun 12

Genie said :

As soon as the back pay is all paid off – Adios !!!

The only sensible thing to do.

And find out where you stand with throwing away personal effects, because people like him will leave a lot of crap behind. It’s not that they don’t want it, but they are lazy. You will want to be perfectly clear that it will be junked if it doesn’t go with him. If he has anything remotely like a bond (hahaha), reserve a couple of hundred that will be returned when all his gear is out. Otherwise use it to rent the skip.

Genie 7:04 pm 22 Jun 12

1337Hax0r said :

Genie ,I don’t want to be rude, but your other half reads like a bit of an arse hole who doesn’t have his priorities in the right place. As for B1, stuff the whole thing. For the cost of fuel money I’d love to come around, shove him in my boot and drive him out to Lake George and dump him on the side of the freeway one night while you guys change the locks.
I had the same sort of problem with a relative once while renting and resolved it finally by moving out when the lease expired. I gave him plenty of notice but come the last day of the lease he was still there. It wasn’t my problem.
Anyway, solve the problem, get onto RSVP.com or some other dating site and get yourself a new second half.
Sorry for the agro. I’m just less patient in my old age than I once was.

I agree with you and I disagree with you – I would love for my partner to make this his priority but without going into too much details the poor boy has way too much on his plate.

Some days I wish we rented the plate so WE could leave, or that my name was on the mortgage papers so I could step in and evict him. I really am sick of my partner telling me “I’m handling it”, he’s clearly not and I would love to do it my way !!!

It infuriates me that my partner currently works 70+ hours a week 7 days a week and these lazy buggers wont even clean up after themselves.. to the point where I threw up over the stench and state of the kitchen the other night. (4 days worth of unrinsed plates/pots/roasting dishes & saucepans smell pretty disgusting, esp when you’re extremely nauscious). My partner barely has time to scratch his butt, let alone deal with B1 being a freeloader.

While I’m to now admit I wasn’t “officially” living there (but yes I’ve been in the picture for years and was living there for a significant length of time, I had moved back home with my mother during a period of her ill health. So no it’s not a matter of “everything was fine until my landlords girlfriend wanted to move in”) I avoid going over as much as possible, I don’t even talk to B1 anymore and just ignore them. I have also since advised my partner if I ever came over again with the house in the state it was – I’m turning around and leaving.

My partner asked for external advice so I mentioned to him of putting a post on here.. Something he was all for.

Ok so mid writing this post my partner called me so I really do have an update…..

B1’s mummy is going to pay their rent directly to my partner. Turns out B1’s mother HAS been paying him for all the work he’s doing and he’s just been too lazy to pass it onto us… and has blown thousands upon thousand of money on god knows what (His parents control the finances in their joint business) so his Mother will now pay rent/bills/backrent etc directly to us before even paying her own son his wage. As soon as the back pay is all paid off – Adios !!!

Huzzah !!!!

1337Hax0r 5:28 pm 22 Jun 12

Genie ,I don’t want to be rude, but your other half reads like a bit of an arse hole who doesn’t have his priorities in the right place. As for B1, stuff the whole thing. For the cost of fuel money I’d love to come around, shove him in my boot and drive him out to Lake George and dump him on the side of the freeway one night while you guys change the locks.
I had the same sort of problem with a relative once while renting and resolved it finally by moving out when the lease expired. I gave him plenty of notice but come the last day of the lease he was still there. It wasn’t my problem.
Anyway, solve the problem, get onto RSVP.com or some other dating site and get yourself a new second half.
Sorry for the agro. I’m just less patient in my old age than I once was.

PBO 5:15 pm 22 Jun 12

Host a full contact “Furries” event at your home, if it does not work then we can all have an interesting read about how it has “changed the dynamics” and “altered the feel somewhat” of your home.

Genie 5:07 pm 22 Jun 12

*sigh* sadly no update that makes me happy.

Although B1 was furious the other week that someone ate a teeny tiny biscuit of his and long story short, wanted to go to a system where we only ate and used what we paid for. He was told that he better start sleeping on the front lawn since he doesn’t pay rent.

I have butted out of it (for now) and left it up to my other half to (not) deal with. It’s also my understanding that B1 is currently out of work.

Oh and almost didn’t have to lie about needing the room for a nursery. We probably should of played on that one for awhile.

carnardly 4:16 pm 22 Jun 12

So – can we get to the final chapter in this sordid old story yet?

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