Why it’s best to stay indoors – parenting in public places

weeziepops 15 April 2009 108

As I waited to be served at Subway in the Hyperdome, I watched with fascination as a child clambered atop the counter, leaned over the cash register and started pressing random buttons.

My main interest was the mother’s reaction to this. Nothing for a few minutes. Then, when she finally noticed my focussed attention, she whined, “Britney, get down.”

I think that was her name – it may have been Breanna, Chapelle, Bylynda or similar. Also note that the woman gave the word “down” about forty-three syllables, as in “dow-o-ow-o-ow-owwwn.” I am perhaps being a bit mean, however – she did have half a dozen other small charges, all of whom appeared equally well behaved.

Needless to say, the child did not get down until one of the staff members piped up in his breaking, fifteen year old voice voice, “Get down, please.” She then turned her attention to taking and unwrapping about a dozen straws, at which point I over-stepped the bounds and asked her what she thought she was doing.

She dropped the straws and returned to her mother, who in turn glared at me as if I had breached a fundamental code – thou shalt not question, berate or judge another person’s child.

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monomania monomania 10:09 am 17 Apr 09

ant said :

If kids are barrelling around, crashing in to people, I make sure that when/if they barrell into me, my knee is coming up at around the same time.

I evaded detection by umpires in hockey for years, I figure the handlers of such children have no hope. wouldn’t it be nice if they raised their kids?

Like you were raised you? Successfully to be either a braggard or if what you say about your hockey is true a sneaky bully. Bet your opponents though you were a real pissant.

Special G Special G 8:27 am 17 Apr 09

ant said :

If kids are barrelling around, crashing in to people, I make sure that when/if they barrell into me, my knee is coming up at around the same time. As they’re flying into the dog biscuit display, I hope they’re reflecting on smashing into people being a REALLY bad idea, before they do it to an old lady with crap bones.

I evaded detection by umpires in hockey for years, I figure the handlers of such children have no hope. wouldn’t it be nice if they raised their kids?

It’s little gems like this one that give us insight into your wonderful caring personality.

Don’t be surprised when father of said kid you just sunk your knee into comes over and puts you in a coma. I wouldn’t be.

It’s like this ant – little kids do not have forsight of consequences. They have not lived long enough yet do develop those thought patterns. Same reason children will chase a ball onto a busy roadway as the only thing they are focused on is the ball.

You as the adult should be able to either step out of the way or cushion kid as they run into you. What you are suggesting is simply assaulting a child. You are the lowest kind of pond scum.

Granny Granny 7:53 am 17 Apr 09

Nyssa76, if you can control a full shopping trolley with one hand and a stroller with the other more power to you. I have trouble controlling those trolleys with two hands.

The solution, as outlined before, is to stick the kid in the trolley, which, like most parents I do. I’m not whinging about sticking my kids in the trolley and I really don’t know what your problem is. Why don’t you build a bridge and get over it? Why should you care whether I use a trolley or a stroller to go shopping with? Sheesh! Get a life!

I love you too, BerraBoy68!

: )

ant ant 12:50 am 17 Apr 09

If kids are barrelling around, crashing in to people, I make sure that when/if they barrell into me, my knee is coming up at around the same time. As they’re flying into the dog biscuit display, I hope they’re reflecting on smashing into people being a REALLY bad idea, before they do it to an old lady with crap bones.

I evaded detection by umpires in hockey for years, I figure the handlers of such children have no hope. wouldn’t it be nice if they raised their kids?

BerraBoy68 BerraBoy68 10:29 pm 16 Apr 09

nyssa76 said :

Granny, when your husband’s at sea and you have noother choice but to do it yourself. It really isn’t that hard.

Nyssa, sounds like you husbands is a sailor. Is he merchant, Pusser or simply just likes getting out fishing in a boat a lot? As an ex-sailor I agree with you. More power to mums who’s husbands work away a lot. I know I respect my wife all the more for her efforts.

BerraBoy68 BerraBoy68 10:27 pm 16 Apr 09

Granny said :

Kids have a right to be in the world. It is necessary for children to be exposed to experiences such as shopping if they are to learn and develop important life skills. There are rude, ignorant children and rude, ignorant adults. Most children I know are wonderful people.

I love you granny.

farnarkler farnarkler 10:18 pm 16 Apr 09

Kids these days eh. I was nailed to the school walls, had to hop from lesson to lesson and when I ran away I got five miles before I was caught by the school leopard.

If parents won’t admonish their children in public then they deserve to have those children shouted at by others.

nyssa76 nyssa76 9:44 pm 16 Apr 09

Granny, when your husband’s at sea and you have noother choice but to do it yourself. It really isn’t that hard.

Most children I know are good and I hope they will turn out to be good adults.

As for whinging, the solution is much more simple, build a bridge and get over it or don’t subhject yourself to such a situation. It’s simple logic.

bd84 bd84 9:43 pm 16 Apr 09

VYBerlinaV8_the_one_they_all_copy said :

I suggest, though, that simply because parents aren’t smacking their kids doesn’t make them ‘do-gooders’.

It was more directed at people saying that their of parenting by not smacking is and should be the only way of parenting. It should be and always should be as you described, parents finding what works for disciplining their children. Parents shouldn’t have to live in fear of going to jail for giving their child a couple of smacks on the bum. Maybe then we’d actually see some parents with the ability to control their children at the shops.

Hells_Bells74 Hells_Bells74 8:51 pm 16 Apr 09

Agreed MWF.

PS2 gone for a week has worked a treat round here too.

Agree with the count to three rule, with my kids probably never getting to three. No fun!

MWF MWF 8:22 pm 16 Apr 09

We used to have a naughty chair in the naughty corner, way before that stuck up, childless Supper Nanny put hers on the tele.

As the kids are too big for the naughty chair these days, I have reverted to what we had to do in school. They sit in the naughty corner (that space behind the front door, kwim?) with HANDS ON HEADS. For as many minutes as their age in years.

A fortnight ago both were “grounded” which means they couldn’t visit their friend a few houses down the road; both had their Nintendo DS systems confiscated for a week and both were banned from using the computer for a week.

action = consequence, works for me.

monomania monomania 6:46 pm 16 Apr 09

screaming banshee said :

I can only guess that you are a stakeholder to one of the groups identified and took much greater exception to the comments made than should ever be taken in an online forum.

Not such a good try. The old if your upset about others being put down it must be because you too deserve to be put down. So what should unworthy I do now that you have outed me?

monomania monomania 6:36 pm 16 Apr 09

screaming banshee said :

What I still dont understand is what you found so noxious about FC’s post.

So it’s OK as long as you bring your kids up so that they aren’t a nuisance at the shops but OK to give them the attitude that other people can be denigrated and that it’s fair to be judge them and describe them as “bottom of the gene pool”.
You’ll have brought up children with nice manners when it suits) and very nasty attitudes.

screaming banshee said :

I can only guess that you are a stakeholder to one of the groups identified and took much greater exception to the comments made than should ever be taken in an online forum.

Granny Granny 3:56 pm 16 Apr 09

nyssa76 – presumably eating while standing on your head can be done as well. Why would anyone want to?

I have done the trolley and stroller thing also after a fashion and would never attempt it again. If you choose to that’s your business. Don’t call me a whinger for using the obvious facilities provided to solve an obvious problem.

I’ve also tried internet shopping. It’s almost, but not quite, as good as sending my husband. No thanks. Also time consuming and painful. I would do it if I was recovering from an injury perhaps.

Kids have a right to be in the world. It is necessary for children to be exposed to experiences such as shopping if they are to learn and develop important life skills. There are rude, ignorant children and rude, ignorant adults. Most children I know are wonderful people.

screaming banshee screaming banshee 3:29 pm 16 Apr 09

BerraBoy68 said :

You’ll be right, ‘nutbag’ status is bestowed for consecutive posts

Seems I’ll have to try harder in future

BerraBoy68 BerraBoy68 3:05 pm 16 Apr 09

screaming banshee said :

Given I’ve reached five-post nutbag status on this topic I’ll leave it at that before johnboy puts me in the naughty corner.

You’ll be right, ‘nutbag’ status is bestowed for consecutive posts

peterh peterh 3:04 pm 16 Apr 09

screaming banshee, is there a limit to the number of posts? the nutbag reference is to a number of consecutive posts, not how many times you post….

screaming banshee screaming banshee 2:33 pm 16 Apr 09

monomania said :

screaming banshee said :

I suspect FC and I are missing your point. Now perhaps you’re further up the pile and those at your level understand but I really cant get my head around what you’re trying to say.

Don’t put words in my sentences. You’re the one with the concept of being below some in a pile and above others who you regard as stealing your oxygen. You jumped in with your bullshit about what was or wasn’t PC after I took offense at a noxious post from FC who earlier had not wanted to be unfairly judged by others but then did exactly that, describing some people as ‘bottom of the gene pool parents’ buying ‘dead’ food (and later as plebs). So enough with the false humility.

Mono, I don’t recall putting words in your sentences. Merely acknowledging that I myself may be flawed in not understanding your meaning.

What I still dont understand is what you found so noxious about FC’s post. I can only guess that you are a stakeholder to one of the groups identified and took much greater exception to the comments made than should ever be taken in an online forum.

Given I’ve reached five-post nutbag status on this topic I’ll leave it at that before johnboy puts me in the naughty corner.

p1 p1 1:59 pm 16 Apr 09

I much retold family story is that my father and a neighbours child were playing (at about age 5 to 10), when the neighbour bit my my father. My grandmother, normally quite a conservative woman (this would have happened in the late ’50s or early ’60s), told him that if he was going to bite people, she would bite him back – and proceeded to do just that. Upset child then ran home and tells his mother what happens, and gets a smack for telling lies!

🙂

VYBerlinaV8_the_one_they_all_copy VYBerlinaV8_the_one_they_all_copy 1:56 pm 16 Apr 09

I will stick to the nasty laundry, with the grumpy old cat. no fun at all in the laundry…

We use a spot in the hallway near the laundry, where he can see us, but can’t see the TV or his toys. If he moves we know and put him back. Works a treat.

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