There is the theory that within the world we have only 6 degrees of separation between us and anyone else – in Canberra it feels like 2. We are a small capital city where by it seems everyone is connected by a friend, uncle, sister, colleague..
I’m not a born and bread Canberran, but I’ve been here long enough to realize that you should always be careful what you say or who you talk about, because someone who knows someone who knows someone is listening.
2 degrees of separation that makes Canberra feel connected, that you don’t just know ‘of’ someone, you feel like you know them because that’s a friend of so-and-so’s sister.
Add into the mix an online dating app that almost every single person in Canberra is on and you’re bound to get into some interesting conversations.
I have two friends who are on Tinder, both beautiful brunettes who are trying their hand at online dating. One has been on Tinder for a few months, the other only just recently joined. As friends do they talk about it, talk about the potential prospects and help decipher ‘what does that sentence MEAN?’
No surprises that they’ve both been matched with a few of the same people. No big deal, when you’re using an app like Tinder you should immediately assume the person you’re talking to is likely to be matching and talking to a lot of other people – that’s the whole point of it.
It gets interesting when a guy their both talking to makes a flat out lie ‘Oh, I’m only talking to you’.
I know, shock horror. Not everyone who engages with online dating is an honest person. I expect there to be liars and cat fishers, however when you live in Canberra it seems like a slightly stupid thing to do, because in the end it always comes out.
Canberra is so small and so well connected that it’s not worth it. It’s not worth lying about something you so simply shouldn’t be lying about.
I’m sure this happens on the mans side as well, a few friends might find their matched to a few of the same women – I’d like to know what happens in that situation. Does it become competitive? Do you get upset knowing she’s talking to your friends as well as you? Do you compare what she says for truths?
Any men that have been through something similar – please, share with me! I want to know what you do, do you treat the situation the same as my friends did? Did you block the person immediately or call them out on it?
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