This article has been a long time coming. It seems that most posts I write about dating come with lots of comments from men acting as the victim. The poor blokes who feel like women have these long checklists of criteria a suitable candidate has to meet before having the pleasure of being in their company. That as women we are only interested in money, money and more money.
Poor men. Poor poor poor men. How do you do it? How do you continue to date when you are treated in such a way that is so demeaning, that makes you feel used and like you don’t measure up. Us women, we are heartless, cruel creatures that just want to know the contents of your wallet and see your last tax return statement.
How do you cope in such an unfair dating world?
Let’s take a reality check for a second and continue on with our generalisations.
If women just want money, then surely men just want sex?
I’m right aren’t I? Every single one of you men who read this post date a woman for the bottom line, nooky. Each move is calculated to so that we trust you, feel safe with you, take things to the physical level and then BAM, you’re done. You got what you came for and now it’s onto the next conquest.
No? That’s not you?
Guess what? Not every woman is money hungry either, just like not every guy is wanting to see their date’s knickers in the first 10 minutes. Yes, there are people out there that fall into these categories, but by having these assumptions of every date you go on you’re going to come across as bitter, and your pay cheque isn’t the only reason you’re not going to get that second date.
Let’s cut the cr@p shall we? YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.
Dating sucks. It sucks until you find someone who makes it better, who makes it easy and then you don’t have to date anymore and you don’t have to worry about all the bad dates. All that matters is that one good date that led you to a good person.
Until then, keep your head up, take each person as they are until they give you a reason not to like or trust them.