Skip to content Skip to main navigation

Lifestyle

Get RSM on your side at tax time.

The Victimisation of Men

By Samara Gentle - 17 October 2014 14

confused-man-stock-171014

This article has been a long time coming. It seems that most posts I write about dating come with lots of comments from men acting as the victim. The poor blokes who feel like women have these long checklists of criteria a suitable candidate has to meet before having the pleasure of being in their company. That as women we are only interested in money, money and more money.

Poor men. Poor poor poor men. How do you do it? How do you continue to date when you are treated in such a way that is so demeaning, that makes you feel used and like you don’t measure up. Us women, we are heartless, cruel creatures that just want to know the contents of your wallet and see your last tax return statement.

How do you cope in such an unfair dating world?

Let’s take a reality check for a second and continue on with our generalisations.

If women just want money, then surely men just want sex?

I’m right aren’t I? Every single one of you men who read this post date a woman for the bottom line, nooky. Each move is calculated to so that we trust you, feel safe with you, take things to the physical level and then BAM, you’re done. You got what you came for and now it’s onto the next conquest.

No? That’s not you?

Guess what? Not every woman is money hungry either, just like not every guy is wanting to see their date’s knickers in the first 10 minutes. Yes, there are people out there that fall into these categories, but by having these assumptions of every date you go on you’re going to come across as bitter, and your pay cheque isn’t the only reason you’re not going to get that second date.

Let’s cut the cr@p shall we? YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.

Dating sucks. It sucks until you find someone who makes it better, who makes it easy and then you don’t have to date anymore and you don’t have to worry about all the bad dates. All that matters is that one good date that led you to a good person.

Until then, keep your head up, take each person as they are until they give you a reason not to like or trust them.

What’s Your opinion?


Post a comment
Please login to post your comments, or connect with
14 Responses to
The Victimisation of Men
Typewriter 9:26 am 20 Oct 14

Darkfalz said :

Always amusing the way women go on an on about men, how pathetic they are, projecting so many of societies ills onto them, spreading ridiculous one sided propaganda about rape and DV, and despite having 95-100% of control with regards to relationships and choice in partners – yet if a man ever dares to suggest women aren’t just innocent and light, it still manages to catch in their craw like nothing else. The lesson to men is – shut up. You are only there to be dumped on.

“despite having 95-100% of control with regards to relationships and choice in partners” Would love to know where you got this stat from? This sounds like a guy who has been rejected one too many times and rather than looking internally would rather just post women bashing rants on internet forums. As a guy I would suggest an attitude change would help you immensely with the ladies.

Darkfalz 10:18 pm 19 Oct 14

Always amusing the way women go on an on about men, how pathetic they are, projecting so many of societies ills onto them, spreading ridiculous one sided propaganda about rape and DV, and despite having 95-100% of control with regards to relationships and choice in partners – yet if a man ever dares to suggest women aren’t just innocent and light, it still manages to catch in their craw like nothing else. The lesson to men is – shut up. You are only there to be dumped on.

milkman 7:28 pm 19 Oct 14

Antagonist said :

chewy14 said :

Sure these are generalisations and maybe “you’re not like that” but to ignore these factors as major and primary influences in partner selection for a majority of people is to wilfully ignore reality. People can rail about how unfair it is but to do so is just pissing into the wind.

+ another. Not one of your better articles, Samara. It comes off as a bit of a crazy rant actually.

Definitely a rant. A bit of a whiney one, too.

Maya123 3:29 pm 18 Oct 14

Antagonist said :

Maya123 said :

Antagonist said :

chewy14 said :

Sure these are generalisations and maybe “you’re not like that” but to ignore these factors as major and primary influences in partner selection for a majority of people is to wilfully ignore reality. People can rail about how unfair it is but to do so is just pissing into the wind.

+ another. Not one of your better articles, Samara. It comes off as a bit of a crazy rant actually.

No, it was funny and one of your better articles, but I’m female and Antagonist is probably male.

Enter the crazy (single) cat lady from The Simpsons 🙂

I don’t have a cat and, single? – you get so wrong.

Antagonist 2:01 pm 18 Oct 14

Maya123 said :

Antagonist said :

chewy14 said :

Sure these are generalisations and maybe “you’re not like that” but to ignore these factors as major and primary influences in partner selection for a majority of people is to wilfully ignore reality. People can rail about how unfair it is but to do so is just pissing into the wind.

+ another. Not one of your better articles, Samara. It comes off as a bit of a crazy rant actually.

No, it was funny and one of your better articles, but I’m female and Antagonist is probably male.

Enter the crazy (single) cat lady from The Simpsons 🙂

Maya123 1:27 pm 18 Oct 14

Antagonist said :

chewy14 said :

Sure these are generalisations and maybe “you’re not like that” but to ignore these factors as major and primary influences in partner selection for a majority of people is to wilfully ignore reality. People can rail about how unfair it is but to do so is just pissing into the wind.

+ another. Not one of your better articles, Samara. It comes off as a bit of a crazy rant actually.

No, it was funny and one of your better articles, but I’m female and Antagonist is probably male.

Antagonist 11:34 am 18 Oct 14

chewy14 said :

Sure these are generalisations and maybe “you’re not like that” but to ignore these factors as major and primary influences in partner selection for a majority of people is to wilfully ignore reality. People can rail about how unfair it is but to do so is just pissing into the wind.

+ another. Not one of your better articles, Samara. It comes off as a bit of a crazy rant actually.

farnarkler 6:09 pm 17 Oct 14

Good post Samara. All I’m going to say is, youtube a bit of Chris Rock’s stand up about men and women.

pajs 3:10 pm 17 Oct 14

Well said.

VYBerlinaV8_is_back 1:29 pm 17 Oct 14

chewy14 said :

I would suggest it’s not an either or situation but a spectrum.

Most men are not solely out for sex but it is definitely an important part of partner selection , just as it is for women.

And most women are not solely out to snag a rich man but a good job with higher earnings is definitely high on the list for partner selection and is also becoming increasingly important for men as well.

Sure these are generalisations and maybe “you’re not like that” but to ignore these factors as major and primary influences in partner selection for a majority of people is to wilfully ignore reality. People can rail about how unfair it is but to do so is just pissing into the wind.

Nailed it (no pun intended).

chewy14 11:42 am 17 Oct 14

I would suggest it’s not an either or situation but a spectrum.

Most men are not solely out for sex but it is definitely an important part of partner selection , just as it is for women.

And most women are not solely out to snag a rich man but a good job with higher earnings is definitely high on the list for partner selection and is also becoming increasingly important for men as well.

Sure these are generalisations and maybe “you’re not like that” but to ignore these factors as major and primary influences in partner selection for a majority of people is to wilfully ignore reality. People can rail about how unfair it is but to do so is just pissing into the wind.

Samara Gentle 11:32 am 17 Oct 14

justin heywood said :

Dating sucks. It sucks until you find someone who makes it better, who makes it easy and then you don’t have to date anymore and you don’t have to worry about all the bad dates. All that matters is that one good date that led you to a good person.

Well written and very true.

Thank you! 🙂

Ben_Dover said :

Well seeing as the only sort of “man” who would use a dating agency is going to be a bit of a sad sack in any case, is it any wonder they feel “victims”?

Good point – but they’d be wise to get out of that ‘sad sack’ rut!

Ben_Dover 11:08 am 17 Oct 14

Well seeing as the only sort of “man” who would use a dating agency is going to be a bit of a sad sack in any case, is it any wonder they feel “victims”?

justin heywood 10:12 am 17 Oct 14

Dating sucks. It sucks until you find someone who makes it better, who makes it easy and then you don’t have to date anymore and you don’t have to worry about all the bad dates. All that matters is that one good date that led you to a good person.

Well written and very true.

Related Articles

CBR Tweets

Sign up to our newsletter

Top
Copyright © 2017 Riot ACT Holdings Pty Ltd. All rights reserved.
www.the-riotact.com | www.b2bmagazine.com.au | www.thisiscanberra.com

Search across the site