12 July 2023

As a person of colour, I'm more at home in Paris than I am in Australia

| Zoya Patel
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Zoya Patel in France.

Zoya Patel says she feels more comfortable in France than in some Australian settings. Photo: Supplied.

Travelling to the northern hemisphere as an Australian is an ordeal – but after 36 hours of planes and airports, being transported to a Parisian summer while my friends and family back home shiver their way through Canberra in July is gratifying.

Another unexpected source of gratification is remembering how much easier it is to walk through Paris (or indeed Edinburgh, London, New York etc) as an Indian woman than it is at times to live in Australia.

Here, my skin colour is entirely unremarkable. I don’t feel the flicker of a stranger’s eyes, or suffer the rudeness of a sudden racist comment, or just feel that uncomfortable feeling when I know that I am being judged or treated differently because of my race.

I feel all of those things in Australia on a semi-regular basis.

Being in France and feeling so at ease has surprised me, but apparently it shouldn’t.

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During my first few days in Paris, a Scottish friend accompanied me. She was surprised at how clear it was that we were tourists (given we were loudly talking in English, I didn’t share her shock), but a French friend looked at both of us, and said: “Zoya fits right in. You don’t because you have blonde hair. French people are rarely blonde”.

I was charmed by this, given I’m the brown person. I wouldn’t have expected to be the person to fit in over my blonde, white friend in a European country. If we were walking around in Australia and no one heard her accent, undoubtedly people would be more likely to assume my friend is Australian than that I am.

Before you run for the comment section, let me elaborate. I’ve written before about living in Scotland, and how interesting it was to witness the difference in the way people reacted to my race there compared to Australia.

“Where are you from?” someone would ask, and I would reply “Australia” – because that is where I am from. I have never known another home and, while I have an Indian ethnic background, I am no more “from” India than Mongolia. I barely know the country.

In Australia, the question is loaded. The real thing being asked is “why is your skin brown?”. It is a question that nine times out of 10 is borne out of curiosity and no malicious intent. But every so often, it’s combined with a sneer and an aggressive tone. Or worse, instead of being asked where I am from, I am simply told to go back there.

In Scotland, and indeed in France and the US when I’ve visited, my response of “Australia” is met with delight, and no further interrogation. These countries have large South Asian populations, just as Australia does, and unlike other ethnic groups, they have transitioned from the racism faced by South Asians in these countries in the past to a broad acceptance of the generational transfer of cultural identity from race or birthplace to a person’s home.

Being South Asian and British, or French or American is unremarkable and unquestioned.

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Being asked where I’m from is obviously not particularly traumatising, but it is frustrating when placed in the context of other regular experiences of racism or racist stereotyping.

Just recently back home I have been at events where I have been asked incredibly stereotypical questions based on my race, been mistaken for other brown women who look nothing like me, had strangers make racist comments in public, and heard tales of the same from my family and friends.

While I have been enjoying the lack of interest in my race over here, I am not so naive as to think France, Europe more generally, or the UK don’t have significant issues with racism.

My reprieve is largely because of the rebranding of South Asian migrants as the “model minority”, in opposition to other migrant groups that are the subject of racist vilification. I am very aware that this is simply the shifting of global attitudes that currently favour my traits, but could easily turn in the future.

Another French friend, who has an Arabic background, was vocal about his experiences of racism, and his frustration with his country’s treatment of his community.

And I have arrived in France after weeks of unrest and rioting over the police shooting of a young black man here in Paris.

Racism is a massive factor in the lives of many French people, and often in bigger more systemic ways than I experience as a brown person in Australia. But it is bizarre to reflect that I can feel more at ease here, in a country where I don’t even speak the language, than I sometimes do walking into a room full of white Australians at home.

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Really? Do riots throughout the city and the occasional terrorist act appeal to people of colour? I doubt it. But that’s what Paris offers over Canberra (or anywhere in Australia) these days. Good luck and off you go

As a Canberran of colour (and not of the model migrant stock as Zoya) I too can relate with the article. I have been on the but end of vile racism too many times that I care to remember at the hands of my fellow Australians. But I have also experienced the equanimity and even hand of this country’s colour blind laws and institutions. All communities have their rotten apples who taint the image for everyone else. The key is perspective and proportion. Australia is my home and I would not live any where else. You just have to take the good with the bad and make the best of it. In the lottery of life, we’ve hit the jackpot by being Canberrans.

At the start I was slightly irked by the by the article, as I read on though I changed my mind, thinking it quite balanced overall.
After reading some of the comments I thought a number of the points raised by Zaya were in fact borne out!(Privileged 73 yo white male)

GrumpyGrandpa1:30 pm 17 Jul 23

Australia, (and Canberra) is very multicultural. In our case, many of our neighbours trace their origins to an array of nationalities and my experiences and interactions have been favourable. Some of my best friends weren’t born on this country. My son has an Asian girlfriend and I’d be more than pleased to have her as my daughter-in-law.

Does the author provoke hostilities towards her? I’m not sure, but articles like this probably don’t help.

The cynical amongst us could conclude that in Paris, the author has no audience for her views and doesn’t get the negative feedback.

This is not leveled at the author, but more of a general statement. I find it very distasteful when people use the media and social networks to push political, cultural and social agendas. My experience has been that often, those activists can blind to their own prejudices.

Ok. Rant from an old white straight male, over. 😀

And I’m just happy being little dark skinned me. I don’t have to do reverse racism to feel woke

She should change her name from Zoya Patel to Zoya Clickbait.

While living an entitled life on a +$100k income, with international travel, home ownership and a horse, the author makes a career out of white shaming and imagined, (but lucrative) victimhood.

The question of where you’re from has nothing to do with racism and color and a lot with curiousity. I have been asked that question often and have asked it often. To and from people with all kind of different colours and accents. Or none whatsoever. Maybe you should start asking too and learn a thing or two.

Yes, lovely France where Marine Le Pen, an actual fascist received 41% of the vote. Give me a break, you silly woman!

Zoya says, The real thing being asked is “why is your skin brown?”. People who think they can read others’ minds should stop making assumptions and ask, ‘why do you ask?’ That would be a much less arrogant way of getting at the truth rather than believing you can mind-read accurately. All too often mind-reading is completely wrong and creates unnecessary conflict, as we all think differently, based on our personal experience of life. The many different responses to this article prove that point.

can this author be positive about anything? I find it disappointing that such sweeping generalisations are allowed to be printed with no supporting evidence as all it does is create further divisions.

HiddenDragon8:40 pm 13 Jul 23

“Person of colour” living a very privileged “white” lifestyle flies half way around the world, to the home of Sartre and (on and off) Camus, and frets about alienation – très ironique.

wodenresident8:37 pm 13 Jul 23

Another diversive article by Zoya. Riotact, howcome you cant publish articles that inspire us to live together harmoniously as human beings, regardless of attributes such as gender, race etc.

As a white person, I feel very uncomfortable in certain parts of Sydney, and I have been called names and had things thrown at me. All because my skin colour is white. I have had men with brown skin grab my bottom and make rude comments about my body. I feel scared going to certain areas in Australia.
Who can I tell my story to?

Zoya could stop off in India on her way back & inform us of how the Muslims & Christians are treated by the Hindu majority or maybe how life is going for the lower castes over there.

Zoya, don’t forget to visit India where skin whitening/lightening/bleaching products are over half of the skin products sold despite it’s well recorded adverse toxic medical effects. What is it with people and skin colour?

36 hours from here to Paris? Really?

@myview0
Perhaps you should go back and read what she wrote: “… after 36 hours of planes and airports …”
It’s quite conceivable that with multiple stopovers, etc. the journey from Canberra to Paris could take an eleapsed time of 36 hours.

You should really check you own facts before you question others.

Human nature inherently causes us to discriminate on the basis of visual differences in appearance. This is something that can never be eliminated. For example shorter people earn less on average than their taller counterparts and there is an over representation of CEOs taller than 6’4. However we don’t have a crusade fighting for equal pay amongst people of different heights.

We need to be careful as a society not to overplay the supposed disadvantages faced by minority groups and not give them preference that is not commensurate with the actual skills and value they can add. We are seeing a crisis in aged care and other industries dominated by different racial groups in this fight for equality when in reality there are language and cultural barriers that make people less competent in a certain role but this is completely ignored in a blind campaign for “diversity and inclusion”.

I believe that in south Asia itself having a lighter skin tone is seen as a great advantage and this attitude far predates European colonization. In Indian newspapers for example in the marriage partners section lightness of skin is often highlighted. Am I wrong?

Aren’t we all people of colour?

Several years ago when my Scottish Mother and my sister were travelling on a bus in London. My Mother heard this amazing broad Scottish accent coming from behind her in the bus. She turned to see a tall man of West Indian descent speaking in an animated fashion in a Glaswegian accent. Mum was delighted and had a brief conversion with him before she left the bus. The big question Mum asked was where in Glasgow was the gentlemen from? My sister thought this was hilarious the sight of my five foot mother engaging with a six foot plus gentlemen and having a great old time. Miss you Mum.

So ! Go live there

Zoya, I have worked across a good part of the world, been part of many communities, and I have learned that humans are tribal – we are suspicious of people from a different tribe. It is within all of us, and rather than deny it need to grow as individuals and catch ourselves and question if what we are thinking or saying is for real.

North Asia is especially culturally racist, as a white person I have been on the other end – places I could not go (fair dinkum), people that would not talk to me, or drink with me…. But I had it easy compared to Africans up there…. Yet, most of it harmless really, and much of it curious; like how hairy my chest is compared to Asians, or how small my head is compared to Koreans – apparently that is especially funny!

Interestingly I have spent a lot of time working in India as well – they have their own forms of tribalism – some based on race, but definitely based on religion and “status”.

So while we have our issues in Oz, which as our nation blends and evolves we will work through….. I’d still rather be here than quite a few other places I know…. (Never worked in Europe so can’t speak based on experience).

PS – you’re as Aussie as Vegemite in my book – don’t ever think otherwise, or tolerate anyone saying otherwise.

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