Canberra couples more likely to live in sin

chose = choose

thumper you are dead right. It just sh*ts me when people make presumptions about people who chose not to get married.

It shouldn’t matter if you get married or not, if your relationship is strong enough it will last regardless of wether you have a ring on your finger or not. Some people get married because they want to spend the rest of their life with someone, you can do that without getting married too.

Hey, i’m all for marriage, I think its cute (mostly because i’m not getting married in the next 5 years).

And I agree with Special G, haha.

But can someone please tell me the actual point of it -do not give me some lala love based garbage. We all know that love is a chemical reaction, i just really can’t stand all this airy fairy rubbish that we put so much emphasis on.

Until you can give it an actual point or reason – i will not give your opinions the light of day – because they are worthless.

Dante, Your girlfriend tells you she has no plans on getting married. Haven’t you worked it out that what girls tell you and what they really mean can be totally different things. She probably has the whole thing planned with horse drawn carriages and releasing 100 white doves and the like.

While I respect AD’s rather quaint and outdated 1960s views on relationships (possibly repackaged to look cool for Gen Y’s but essentialy the same hippy shit that led the world to mistakes like flared jeans, ugg boots and the lumber jacket) I wil say that marriage is still great fun – whilst you can live in a la-la dreamworld of self-important denial, nothing says “I love you” like a marriage. Regardless of what anyone will say to try and prop up their sham relationships, its a fact that anything less than marriage is essentailly saying ‘you’ll do until I find somthing better’ end of story.

Diane,

I don’t think its a matter of the relationship being so weak that it needs a reminder, I think that it shows they are comitted to the relationship. This isn’t the meaning for everyone though and I can see your point of view. I have had friends marry in a desperate attempt to save a failing relationship. Marrying for those reasons isn’t ever going to work out.

i don’t begrudge anyone from getting married. It just seems pointless to me. If your relationship with someone is so weak that you need a symbol to remind you – isn’t there something then inherently wrong with the relationship? Also to me the symbolism infers some kind of ownership. Although I would love to own everyone – i don’t particularly want to kill the free spirit of someone I am coupled with.

Personally I don’t romanticise a lot of the silly things that most people do.. i look at life in a more logical way – it makes it far more interesting.

Each to their own really but I will forever stand by my stance that it is pointless.

I also have a profound love of the letter I in reference to myself. Makes sense when you are your own favourite subject.

I dunno.. maybe it’s selfish because it doesn’t consider our creator’s wishes enough *end sarcasm*.

My girlfriend and I have lived together for 2 1/2 years, have no plans on ending our relationship, but also have NO plans to get married any time soon.

We have all of the rights of a married couple as a defacto couple and we don’t see the point in holding an elaborate ceremony to tell everyone that we love each other… we do that all the time as it is.

I also believe that marriage is a outdated edict of the church, and as I am not a participant in a church I have no plans to follow said edict any time soon.

how can you jsutify point 1 in your arguement absent diane, It may not have meaning for you but i’d wager that the symbolism of commitment that getting married entails makes it far from pointless.

Anyway, think of all the wedding presents you would forgoe by not getting married.

how is not getting married selfish?i don’t see the logic?

Nice gereralisation there Barney. I have been with my partner for longer than most people are married, and in my opinion its better to test the water and see how things work out than be some bogan who rushes into a marriage and pisses it all up the wall. I don’t see a problem in being cautious. Getting married should be an important decision, not something you do spontaneously.

It does seem to be true that a lot of couples are not marrying. I think people in Canberra are more interested in themselves. It’s the “What’s good for me” syndrome. Just selfishness really.

I could be wrong.

1) Marriage is pointless
2) Given that no one knows if a relationship will last; what is the point?
3) The stigma of marriage puts way to much pressure on a relationship – why not just let it run free
4) The ideals of marriage are based on idealogies which are slowly becoming redundant.

In my case, my girlfreind and I were living in Orange, NSW and she got a job offer in Canberra and so we decided to move. Better money and better job opportunities in my field (IT). I think we are more inclined to save money and go overseas or buy a unit than spend it all on a big wedding.

Indeed – wedding, or house deposit?

My theory :ACT residents have to work longer to afford high rents and property and as a result have less time for relationships and families