The First Date

Antagonist said :

VYBerlinaV8_is_back said :

BenjaminRose1991 said :

milkman said :

If coffee is boring, you’re there with the wrong person.

+100

And another.

I convinced the hottest chick I know to marry me, and we have been very happily married for more than 10 years. I figured out a way to have some fun and get inside her head on the first date – and it worked very well. I didn’t manage that because I settled for a boring coffee date for our first time out (although we do enjoy our coffee outings). I have the runs on the board. You guys are still single. Figure it out 🙂

We went to dinner and a movie admittedly I spent half the movie hiding my face in his shirt cos it was too scary for me. We are 3 and 3/4 years in and amazingly happy.

I’m not the biggest fan of Samara’s work on these pages, but some of you guys need to have a real hard look at yourselves.

Lighten up, she’s just making a few off-centre suggestions that might help create a lasting impression. And if you can’t see that there could be merit and fun to be had with the right person you’re all a bunch of sad sacks, wowsers and killjoys, haha!

VYBerlinaV8_is_back said :

BenjaminRose1991 said :

milkman said :

If coffee is boring, you’re there with the wrong person.

+100

And another.

I convinced the hottest chick I know to marry me, and we have been very happily married for more than 10 years. I figured out a way to have some fun and get inside her head on the first date – and it worked very well. I didn’t manage that because I settled for a boring coffee date for our first time out (although we do enjoy our coffee outings). I have the runs on the board. You guys are still single. Figure it out 🙂

BenjaminRose1991 said :

milkman said :

If coffee is boring, you’re there with the wrong person.

+100

And another.

farnarkler said :

High maintenance and, by the sounds of it, very single. How many first dates have there been Samara? Are you the type of woman who has a very long list of ‘must haves’ (the $100k plus salary, the house in Isaacs, the BMW or Merc, etc) a potential partner needs to satisfy before you’d go on a second date?

I wonder if you’d ever be seen with a bloke wearing a flouro vest, even though, unbeknownst to you he might have a degree in engineering or architecture.

I love how a post full of suggestions leads to accusations 🙂

BenjaminRose1991 said :

milkman said :

If coffee is boring, you’re there with the wrong person.

+100

Yep. Methinks some people only go on dates so they can have something ‘exciting’ to tell their vacuous, plastic girlfriends.

milkman said :

If coffee is boring, you’re there with the wrong person.

+100

If coffee is boring, you’re there with the wrong person.

Antagonist said :

Really people? If you are playing the game right, you are trying to convince the hottest chick/guy you know that you are going to be worth their time. Why just settle for coffee? Thinking outside the box is exactly what you should be doing. I didn’t end up married to the hottest chick I know by settling for a coffee date! You can learn a lot about each other and have fun at the same time.

Go Karts? Indoor rock climbing (have the courtesy to tell her to wear long pants)? Paintball? Crack open a geode at the Dinosaur Museum and then go check out the aviary. Grab a can of Dairy Whip, make up some cream pies and have a fight with them? Do anything EXCEPT a coffee date – unless the coffee is the last thing on your itinerary for the date.

But what is wrong with coffee or cafes in general? Just saying it’s boring doesn’t cut it, are you and Samara just tired of getting to know the same boring guys in a fairly relaxed environment over a drink or small meal without the added expense, thrill and complication of devising an ostentatious first date.

Last I checked a first date is THE time to get to know somebody and get a feel (no pun intended) of the other person. Are they right for me or not? This from experience is best achieved by conversations in a relatively informal setting without much distraction or activity. Why then would you want to clutter the occasion with roller derby, go karts, and rock climbing. Save it all for a hangout with a friend or heaven forbid.. a fifth or tenth date!

Itinerary? Oh dear… are we talking about a month long holiday in North America or a first date?

The problem with the ‘activity’ based suggestions is that they don’t allow for the ‘getting to know’ type of conversation that will establish whether you want to see that persons again. Paintball is perfectly fine but you may as well go with a mate. Why not something a little more intellectual, for example an exhibition at the Gallery or a play? You can always have coffee afterwards and what you’ve just seen will provide an excellent ice-breaker for further conversation. And anyone who thinks they can get to know someone via a dating site is nuts.

Really people? If you are playing the game right, you are trying to convince the hottest chick/guy you know that you are going to be worth their time. Why just settle for coffee? Thinking outside the box is exactly what you should be doing. I didn’t end up married to the hottest chick I know by settling for a coffee date! You can learn a lot about each other and have fun at the same time.

Go Karts? Indoor rock climbing (have the courtesy to tell her to wear long pants)? Paintball? Crack open a geode at the Dinosaur Museum and then go check out the aviary. Grab a can of Dairy Whip, make up some cream pies and have a fight with them? Do anything EXCEPT a coffee date – unless the coffee is the last thing on your itinerary for the date.

High maintenance and, by the sounds of it, very single. How many first dates have there been Samara? Are you the type of woman who has a very long list of ‘must haves’ (the $100k plus salary, the house in Isaacs, the BMW or Merc, etc) a potential partner needs to satisfy before you’d go on a second date?

I wonder if you’d ever be seen with a bloke wearing a flouro vest, even though, unbeknownst to you he might have a degree in engineering or architecture.

BenjaminRose1991 said :

farnarkler said :

You sound like Mrs Richards from Fawlty Towers. Some poor bast$rd plucks up the courage to ask you out on a date and you expect to see Aurora Australis while driving round Wakefield Park at 200km/h eating fugu. You might think a coffee date is boring but what if your date doesn’t?

+1

It sounds like your very picky about with whom you date. I don’t see any of the places you suggest being appropriate venues to getting to know somebody. Roller derby and the Teppanyaki for me seem to be appropriate for future dates but certainly not the first date. The driving range really makes no sense and if a lady I asked out suggested the driving range as a place for a first date I’d assume she is obsessed with golf/driving ranges, boring, high maintenance or all the above.

High maintenance at least for me and all the other guys I know is a MASSIVE turn off.

I find it slightly hilarious that suggesting anything outside the box in terms of a date is considered high maintenance, but if fun is high maintenance then high maintenance I am 😉

farnarkler said :

You sound like Mrs Richards from Fawlty Towers. Some poor bast$rd plucks up the courage to ask you out on a date and you expect to see Aurora Australis while driving round Wakefield Park at 200km/h eating fugu. You might think a coffee date is boring but what if your date doesn’t?

+1

It sounds like your very picky about with whom you date. I don’t see any of the places you suggest being appropriate venues to getting to know somebody. Roller derby and the Teppanyaki for me seem to be appropriate for future dates but certainly not the first date. The driving range really makes no sense and if a lady I asked out suggested the driving range as a place for a first date I’d assume she is obsessed with golf/driving ranges, boring, high maintenance or all the above.

High maintenance at least for me and all the other guys I know is a MASSIVE turn off.

After reading your post, I suggest a coffee date.

You sound like Mrs Richards from Fawlty Towers. Some poor bast$rd plucks up the courage to ask you out on a date and you expect to see Aurora Australis while driving round Wakefield Park at 200km/h eating fugu. You might think a coffee date is boring but what if your date doesn’t?