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Do People Even Notice, Let Alone Help????

By MrMagoo 18 June 2009 56

As many Rioters may know, I have a vision impairment and as such from time to time encounter obstacles etc in my day to day activities. Yesterday morning I dropped my youngest at his Day Care and proceeded to the Cohen St. Action Bus Station. I entered from the side off Josephson St and approached the two bus stops below the street level. Having never used this entry point I misjudged the distances of steps and with a bit of sun glare had a tumble up a gutter in front of about 15 – 20 high school age kids. Now I’m not one for sympathy or having people fuss over me, but not one of these kids asked if I was OK, I actually saw several turn away and laugh.

Now perhaps I’m old fashioned, but do people actually give a toss about other people these days when they are in obvious or even not so obvious need?

Have people stopped caring about the welfare of others and simply worry about themselves? Interested in peoples views on this.

What’s Your opinion?


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dr.evil 11:53 am 19 Jun 09

johnboy said :

2,000 years ago the idea of helping out strangers in distress was so novel that a story about it got written up and preserved in scripture to this day.

Variations of the same lesson date back thousands of years before that – I guess the ‘golden rule’ was treated as commonsense. These days it may be more…

“Do not do unto others as you would expect they should do unto you. Their tastes may not be the same.”. George Bernard Shaw (apparently).

johnboy 9:46 am 19 Jun 09

2,000 years ago the idea of helping out strangers in distress was so novel that a story about it got written up and preserved in scripture to this day.

Jim Jones 9:39 am 19 Jun 09

ant said :

You see it all around. People being thoughtful and decent is diminishing. We’re more selfish and angry than we were a few decades back. We expect “the authorities” to look after problems on our behalf where we used to just muck in and sort it out.

There are still decent folk out there, but they are a diminishing minority.

So, this golden age — in which everyone helped one another without hesitation in times of need, in which children were friendly and respectful without exception, and drivers were courteous and considerate of those they shared the roads with.

When was this exactly?

Hells_Bells74 9:21 am 19 Jun 09

When I’ve been sprawled there is always somebody to pick me up if I don’t rebound quick. But they’re my angels and the rest of the world around could care less. Just the way I see it.

peterh 9:00 am 19 Jun 09

I have had people snarl at me when i have offered assistance. They are in the minority, and i don’t sweat them. I will always offer assistance to all that need it. It is their choice to accept it, or not. no skin off my nose, at least I have offered. I would rather have the opportunity to help than walk by, as it will guilt me out for the rest of the day. (my mother’s voice in the back of my head is very distracting)

FC 7:46 am 19 Jun 09

There have always been rude people, there always will be.
It was probably not so much that these children were completely indifferent of cold hearted, but probably not sure what to do, or what was appropriate, and therefore did nothing.
There is also the ‘dimished responsibility’ mentality when people are in a group.
It can be hard to know what is appropriate, or if you are going to offend someone by trying to help them. Some people react quite poorly from being offered assistance.
especially if it is a pride things (“NO, I am quite capable on my own thankyou!”) I have experienced this kind of reaction in the past when offering to help a person with a physical disability who appeared to be distresses. I was very unsure of what to do after being yelled at so just left them be, still unable to move their wheelchair. I have experience with people with a disability and am not uncomfortable about it. Now some children wouldn’t really know how to behave, or what is appropriate and might be fearful of getting a negative reaction.
The are kind and considerate people out there, and I think it can have a lot to do with what you focus on.
As well, if you think about the fact that people are living with more stress, and depression and other mental illnesses are far more predominant these days, it would kind of make sense that people would be ruder. (Although I am not saying that they are)

deezagood 7:03 am 19 Jun 09

I remember once many years ago (maybe 25 or so) having a massive bike crash on the way to school; bad – blood everywhere, mangled bike etc… and nobody stopped their car to assist me, leaving me to try to stagger home with my mangled bike. There must have been 100 cars that drove past me that day. It isn’t just kids and it isn’t just nowdays.

ant 10:53 pm 18 Jun 09

deezagood said :

Adults can be really rude too; at Aldi a few weeks ago, there was myself and another fellow (both of us with huge trolleys of groceries) and a frail old lady was standing behind me with one carton of milk. I asked the man if he would mind if the lady jumped in ahead of us; and he literally said ‘Why are you asking, can’t the lady ask for herself – and yes, I do mind’. I was staggered!

That exemplifies the tendency some of us are commenting on here. It’s not just the kids. It’s their parents, too. I’m often the person with one or two items in thsoe whopping Aldi lines, and quite often, the person in front of me with half a kilometre of stuff lets me jump ahead. And I admit to doing the same when I’ve got a load and am paying by card, and someone’s just grabbing something and stuck behind me.

Today sevearl people let me across roundabouts that were chockers in Qbn (due to Morriset roadworks, the whole town locked up) and I made sure to give them a wave, but there were plenty of others who weren’t helping people out like that.

You see it all around. People being thoughtful and decent is diminishing. We’re more selfish and angry than we were a few decades back. We expect “the authorities” to look after problems on our behalf where we used to just muck in and sort it out.

There are still decent folk out there, but they are a diminishing minority.

Nemo 10:40 pm 18 Jun 09

I have fallen over in public and badly hurt myself on numerous occasions. People have come to my aid on each occasion – including in Belconnen. One poor man came to help me only to be abused by my husband who didnt realise I had fallen over and thought I was being mugged.
There are still good people out there.

Felix the Cat 10:09 pm 18 Jun 09

deezagood said :

Adults can be really rude too; at Aldi a few weeks ago, there was myself and another fellow (both of us with huge trolleys of groceries) and a frail old lady was standing behind me with one carton of milk. I asked the man if he would mind if the lady jumped in ahead of us; and he literally said ‘Why are you asking, can’t the lady ask for herself – and yes, I do mind’. I was staggered!

I would of told the bloke to GGF if he’s responded to me in that way. I have been lined up at Aldi several times with only a few items and the person (usually female) with the week’s worth of groceries on the conveyer belt in front of me has asked if I want to go first. Never happend at Woolies or Coles.

I was at a club the other day and was at the bar waiting to be served and the barman asked who was next (even though he knew I was next) and before I could respond this tosser who was next to me started sprouting his order and then he turned to me and tried to make a joke out of it and said something like “I have more drinks to get than you so I’ll go first”. The barman heard this and stopped pouring his drink and asked me what I wanted.

I have been queue jumped on several occasions by older people at different shops, mostly I just let it ride believing karma will sort it out eventually but it is just a reflection on the ways of the world these days. It’s not just Gen Y* that are arrogant and self-centred.

*Sweeping generalisation I know but the majority of them I have to deal with are that way

cantanga 10:02 pm 18 Jun 09

bd84 said :

Why blame the kids? It’s not their fault, it’s the way society is these days.

What a load of balony. Yes it is their fault if they are rude and non caring. It is their choice. Don’t blame society, they must have heard somewhere that being nice to people gives you warm fuzzies and is the right thing to do, many a sitcoms have that as a moral to them. Even the Simpsons has that for many episodes. It’s their choice to ignore that message and therefore it is their fault.

Oh no wait I suppose bd84 does have a point. It’s always someone elses fault. I think I might stop caring for others from now on until everyone else starts to.

bd84 9:46 pm 18 Jun 09

Why blame the kids? It’s not their fault, it’s the way society is these days. People whinge when something unfortunate happens to them and nobody helps, but they learn that off adults and from bad experiences. You’re just as likely to get verbally abused, sued or bashed by the person you go to help. The world is about helping yourself these days.

LaLa 9:16 pm 18 Jun 09

That makes me very sad Mr Magoo. I hope your day got better.

toriness 9:10 pm 18 Jun 09

BerraBoy68 said :

Public school kids always need even more admonishment because their families are always poor and the kids do nothing but hang around streets smoking, doing drugs and robbing private school kids houses. Just thought I’d jump on the rediculous generalisation bandwagon while one was going by, VY:)

As for quoting the Bible, shheesh. I can draw relevant quotes from a few MAD or Phantom comics if anybody wants to learn from other fairy tales.

Sorry for what happened to you Magoo. Kids can be a real pain sometimes, especially when they’re in a pack. I dare say there were one or two that would have helped but were probably scared to come forward after their peers started laughing. Hope your day got better though!

what berraboy said.

BerraBoy68 6:26 pm 18 Jun 09

VYBerlinaV8_the_one_they_all_copy said :

Just select a private school at random, ring and complain. Teenagers need more practice on the ‘unfair’ side of the equation anyway.

Public school kids always need even more admonishment because their families are always poor and the kids do nothing but hang around streets smoking, doing drugs and robbing private school kids houses. Just thought I’d jump on the rediculous generalisation bandwagon while one was going by, VY:)

As for quoting the Bible, shheesh. I can draw relevant quotes from a few MAD or Phantom comics if anybody wants to learn from other fairy tales.

Sorry for what happened to you Magoo. Kids can be a real pain sometimes, especially when they’re in a pack. I dare say there were one or two that would have helped but were probably scared to come forward after their peers started laughing. Hope your day got better though!

peterh 5:32 pm 18 Jun 09

chewy14 said :

Brindabella said :

2 Timothy 3:3

OK let me get out my trusty Bible that i keep on my person at all times, waiting for someone to quote scripture to me.

read both from my trusty bible, electronic version.

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