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BlondieACT 16 April 2011 47

I am woman, hear me roar! Or at least, read me blog. I am 24, I am Gen Y and I have an opinion therefore I will blog about it regardless. I currently write a blog on dating within our fine Capital City. Mostly I do this because it’s fun to share the crazy adventures, but it’s even more fun getting the feedback (in all its flavours). It seems that my generation is keen to make its mark on the world, whether creatively, environmentally or politically. I try to make mine by writing about something that hopefully not only my friends relate to, but a few other women out there relate to as well.

I don’t expect men to understand or read my blog; heck most men didn’t even enjoy that classic show, Sex and the City. All they took away from it was that Samantha was a slut, Carrie had the face of a horse and Charlotte married a bald guy. So I’m not counting on men reading my blog and taking anything positive away from it.

However, I am hoping that my female readers will have some ‘I’ve been there before’ moments; the guy who doesn’t call, the jackrabbit and the arsehole that leaves us at the altar who we go crawling back to. Ok maybe not the last one. Ladies we’ve all been on bad dates and we’ve all shared the details with our girlfriends, sisters, mothers and maybe even our token gay friend.

So this is for the ladies of Canberra, whether single, taken, or somewhere in between, we have great stories to share.

This past month I have dated a Drama Queen, who after some witty banter between us took a joke about his messy apartment out of context. He cancelled our next date, sent me an email saying he could have loved me and so on. He then took this all back, said he had had a crap day and overreacted, all within the space of about four hours. As you can probably already guess I didn’t see him again.

I also went on a date with a Brazilian guy. He took me to La Scala in the city (which was pretty fabulous – a great intimate place for a first date) and then we went to Red Hill lookout for some romance. This guy was very nice, polite, and respectful, however I couldn’t look at him as more than a friend. We went on a few dates and in the end I was upfront and said I didn’t think we had enough in common to continue hanging out. What a can of worms that opened! He asked me why I didn’t tell him sooner. Have people forgotten what the idea of dating is? Getting to know each other before making a commitment to not see other people, it gives you an out before people get really hurt. Apparently not.

I discussed the dating break-up with friends and came to the conclusion that if one party is more interested in the other, some part of them will get hurt, whether it’s their feelings or their ego. But let’s talk about the high road. If someone says they’re not interested, you pleading or asking why is not going to change their mind. Take it in, digest it, and move on.

So the month ended with a new date on the horizon, my new website being launched and the possibility that the next great thing is just around the corner.

To follow my adventures more closely and see what other stuff I like to prattle on about visit my site www.blondeink.net or look for me on Twitter @BlondeInkAUS


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M Rose M Rose 12:28 pm 26 Apr 11

unimpressed said :

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

It wasn’t just men that found your site intolerable.

Yeah, I’m sorry BlondieACT, but I am right bang-smack in the middle of your target group and all I could think was “Ugh” And I’m a big Sex and the City fan.
I just don’t think your sex life is unique or interesting, love. Surely you have something a bit more stimulating in that noggin to write about than men and your proximity to them?

Moose Moose 8:43 am 20 Apr 11

unimpressed said :

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

It wasn’t just men that found your site intolerable.

+1

unimpressed unimpressed 6:02 pm 19 Apr 11

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

It wasn’t just men that found your site intolerable.

chris820 chris820 6:01 pm 19 Apr 11

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

If you’re in the process of ensuring your anonymity.

Go to your website, and in the footer, click Find us on Facebook.
Then in the FB page, click on the info section.
You are listed as a Developer for this app.

Might wanna remove that.

Skidbladnir Skidbladnir 4:40 pm 19 Apr 11

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking…

Hehehehe.

Regardless, insults?

Erg0 Erg0 4:35 pm 19 Apr 11

You clearly don’t know men very well if you think that telling them they won’t like something is going to stop them from looking at it (and subsequently complaining that they don’t like it).

BlondieACT BlondieACT 4:19 pm 19 Apr 11

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

Lazy I Lazy I 3:26 pm 19 Apr 11

swenson2 said :

Lazy I said :

So just to clear this up…

screwing (over) men like a sport and reporting on the minuscule details of her exploits ‘anonymously’ is acceptable…

..but raising with the ‘anonymous’ poster that she isn’t exactly anonymous and she has essentially posted her personal details online for all to see.. is stalking?

Well, considering she doesn’t give names or information about the guys she dates, or set out to screw them over, yea, I think that finding her information, and now texting messaging her insults, a bit creepy

Interesting that you changed your ‘stalking’ definition to accommodate your argument.

From “going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number” – the details she added voluntarily to a public register
To “and now texting messaging her insults”

Does the fact that she doesn’t give out names really mean she is absolved of all responsibility if the person she is writing about is somehow identified by something she has written?

Would you trust your anonymity to a person unable to manage their own?

Moose Moose 3:12 pm 19 Apr 11

Jim Jones said :

Moose said :

However, as a 24 year old female, I’d like to pipe up for all those Mum’s and Dad’s reading this post getting a tad horrified at the stories.

This seems to be a pretty histrionic response to a fairly innocuous blog.

I’ve had a quick poke around (no pun intended) and it’s all very tame.

…Riiiiiggggghhhhhtttt.

Maybe it’s just me, but broadcasting not only your dating life, but sex life on a public website, probably not the best idea ever. It’s almost another medium of voyuerism. How is that fair on the other party, no matter how anon you choose to keep them, to broadcast their love life?

Boot on the other foot, if you came across this and you were one of the subjects, would you really feel comfortable having this publicised for all of Canberra (or Riot ACT) to read up on?

swenson2 swenson2 2:53 pm 19 Apr 11

Lazy I said :

So just to clear this up…

screwing (over) men like a sport and reporting on the minuscule details of her exploits ‘anonymously’ is acceptable…

..but raising with the ‘anonymous’ poster that she isn’t exactly anonymous and she has essentially posted her personal details online for all to see.. is stalking?

Well, considering she doesn’t give names or information about the guys she dates, or set out to screw them over, yea, I think that finding her information, and now texting messaging her insults, a bit creepy

Jim Jones Jim Jones 2:09 pm 19 Apr 11

Moose said :

However, as a 24 year old female, I’d like to pipe up for all those Mum’s and Dad’s reading this post getting a tad horrified at the stories.

This seems to be a pretty histrionic response to a fairly innocuous blog.

I’ve had a quick poke around (no pun intended) and it’s all very tame.

Lazy I Lazy I 1:23 pm 19 Apr 11

swenson2 said :

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

So just to clear this up…

screwing (over) men like a sport and reporting on the minuscule details of her exploits ‘anonymously’ is acceptable…

..but raising with the ‘anonymous’ poster that she isn’t exactly anonymous and she has essentially posted her personal details online for all to see.. is stalking?

Moose Moose 12:53 pm 19 Apr 11

swenson2 said :

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

+1

However, as a 24 year old female, I’d like to pipe up for all those Mum’s and Dad’s reading this post getting a tad horrified at the stories.

At 24, you’d expect a tad more sensibility that to publicly exploit every single multi-date in gory detail. Nobody I know does this. Nobody I know would go to such lengths to promote such shaming filth. I guess I just don’t surround myself with people that would do this, and those that do, publicise it to such extent. Maybe there’s a different society out there that would like to model themselves on some silly “Sex in the City” reality, but it’s not healthy (unless you want to end up hanging around with 2 other hookers and their grandmother at age 50).

Write a diary. Make a scrap book. Keep a box under the bed of ticket stubs and little notes. But why why WHY, project this on public a blog? Why publicise said blog? What is the gain out of this other than notoriety for being a bit nasty? And how do the people mentioned in the blog even feel about this? Especially when it’s seem so easy to figure out who you are? How would you feel if you were being judged and written about in someone else’s publicised blog?

There is nothing to be gained with this in Canberra. It’s just way too small to pretend it’s big ol’ New York city.

SheepGroper SheepGroper 12:47 pm 19 Apr 11

swenson2 said :

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

Possibly. Real stalking requires rummaging through bins, furtive following along streets, peering through windows. All a few people did was the obvious – googling the name, looking up Whois. If the person posting this decided to insult half the readership of an obstreperous site like this, especially after posting on it previously so she had to realise what she could be in for, it’s a good learning opportunity.

colourful sydney racing identity colourful sydney racing identity 12:35 pm 19 Apr 11

swenson2 said :

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

People are pointing out a ‘school-boy error’ by the blogger – explaining how they are endagering their own safety by giving anyone with an ounce of computer knowledge access to their personal details including their home address. Think of it as a public safety initiative.

swenson2 swenson2 12:17 pm 19 Apr 11

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

georgesgenitals georgesgenitals 10:29 am 19 Apr 11

Jim Jones said :

georgesgenitals said :

Holden Caulfield said :

Skidbladnir said :

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

1: Stirring the pot has been enough to coax some resolving action in this case. 🙂
2: Dumb would be keeping details there any longer than necessary, but this just looks like naivete from someone who has never held a domain before, or knew what a WHOIS was for.
3: She’s busily self-educating in website management as a result of comments on this thread, I’ll give her a break (for now).

Yes, I think you should be more gentle from now on.

We were being gentle. Had we posted actual details, or instruuctions on how to obtain actual details, that would have been nasty.

Wasn’t hard to figure out, though, was it?

Um, no it wasn’t…

cmdwedge cmdwedge 9:48 am 19 Apr 11

Thinly-veiled ‘I got laid’ post.

Jim Jones Jim Jones 9:46 am 19 Apr 11

georgesgenitals said :

Holden Caulfield said :

Skidbladnir said :

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

1: Stirring the pot has been enough to coax some resolving action in this case. 🙂
2: Dumb would be keeping details there any longer than necessary, but this just looks like naivete from someone who has never held a domain before, or knew what a WHOIS was for.
3: She’s busily self-educating in website management as a result of comments on this thread, I’ll give her a break (for now).

Yes, I think you should be more gentle from now on.

We were being gentle. Had we posted actual details, or instruuctions on how to obtain actual details, that would have been nasty.

Wasn’t hard to figure out, though, was it?

georgesgenitals georgesgenitals 9:36 am 19 Apr 11

Holden Caulfield said :

Skidbladnir said :

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

1: Stirring the pot has been enough to coax some resolving action in this case. 🙂
2: Dumb would be keeping details there any longer than necessary, but this just looks like naivete from someone who has never held a domain before, or knew what a WHOIS was for.
3: She’s busily self-educating in website management as a result of comments on this thread, I’ll give her a break (for now).

Yes, I think you should be more gentle from now on.

We were being gentle. Had we posted actual details, or instruuctions on how to obtain actual details, that would have been nasty.

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