16 April 2011

Date City

| BlondieACT
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I am woman, hear me roar! Or at least, read me blog. I am 24, I am Gen Y and I have an opinion therefore I will blog about it regardless. I currently write a blog on dating within our fine Capital City. Mostly I do this because it’s fun to share the crazy adventures, but it’s even more fun getting the feedback (in all its flavours). It seems that my generation is keen to make its mark on the world, whether creatively, environmentally or politically. I try to make mine by writing about something that hopefully not only my friends relate to, but a few other women out there relate to as well.

I don’t expect men to understand or read my blog; heck most men didn’t even enjoy that classic show, Sex and the City. All they took away from it was that Samantha was a slut, Carrie had the face of a horse and Charlotte married a bald guy. So I’m not counting on men reading my blog and taking anything positive away from it.

However, I am hoping that my female readers will have some ‘I’ve been there before’ moments; the guy who doesn’t call, the jackrabbit and the arsehole that leaves us at the altar who we go crawling back to. Ok maybe not the last one. Ladies we’ve all been on bad dates and we’ve all shared the details with our girlfriends, sisters, mothers and maybe even our token gay friend.

So this is for the ladies of Canberra, whether single, taken, or somewhere in between, we have great stories to share.

This past month I have dated a Drama Queen, who after some witty banter between us took a joke about his messy apartment out of context. He cancelled our next date, sent me an email saying he could have loved me and so on. He then took this all back, said he had had a crap day and overreacted, all within the space of about four hours. As you can probably already guess I didn’t see him again.

I also went on a date with a Brazilian guy. He took me to La Scala in the city (which was pretty fabulous – a great intimate place for a first date) and then we went to Red Hill lookout for some romance. This guy was very nice, polite, and respectful, however I couldn’t look at him as more than a friend. We went on a few dates and in the end I was upfront and said I didn’t think we had enough in common to continue hanging out. What a can of worms that opened! He asked me why I didn’t tell him sooner. Have people forgotten what the idea of dating is? Getting to know each other before making a commitment to not see other people, it gives you an out before people get really hurt. Apparently not.

I discussed the dating break-up with friends and came to the conclusion that if one party is more interested in the other, some part of them will get hurt, whether it’s their feelings or their ego. But let’s talk about the high road. If someone says they’re not interested, you pleading or asking why is not going to change their mind. Take it in, digest it, and move on.

So the month ended with a new date on the horizon, my new website being launched and the possibility that the next great thing is just around the corner.

To follow my adventures more closely and see what other stuff I like to prattle on about visit my site www.blondeink.net or look for me on Twitter @BlondeInkAUS

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unimpressed said :

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

It wasn’t just men that found your site intolerable.

Yeah, I’m sorry BlondieACT, but I am right bang-smack in the middle of your target group and all I could think was “Ugh” And I’m a big Sex and the City fan.
I just don’t think your sex life is unique or interesting, love. Surely you have something a bit more stimulating in that noggin to write about than men and your proximity to them?

unimpressed said :

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

It wasn’t just men that found your site intolerable.

+1

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

It wasn’t just men that found your site intolerable.

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

If you’re in the process of ensuring your anonymity.

Go to your website, and in the footer, click Find us on Facebook.
Then in the FB page, click on the info section.
You are listed as a Developer for this app.

Might wanna remove that.

BlondieACT said :

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking…

Hehehehe.

Regardless, insults?

You clearly don’t know men very well if you think that telling them they won’t like something is going to stop them from looking at it (and subsequently complaining that they don’t like it).

Thanks to everyone for the hole poking, it’s actually taught me a lot and been a big help (sincerely). Also thank you for reading the part of my post that indicates men would not enjoy my site, only just proves my point further. Look forward to reading everyone’s comments on the next post.

swenson2 said :

Lazy I said :

So just to clear this up…

screwing (over) men like a sport and reporting on the minuscule details of her exploits ‘anonymously’ is acceptable…

..but raising with the ‘anonymous’ poster that she isn’t exactly anonymous and she has essentially posted her personal details online for all to see.. is stalking?

Well, considering she doesn’t give names or information about the guys she dates, or set out to screw them over, yea, I think that finding her information, and now texting messaging her insults, a bit creepy

Interesting that you changed your ‘stalking’ definition to accommodate your argument.

From “going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number” – the details she added voluntarily to a public register
To “and now texting messaging her insults”

Does the fact that she doesn’t give out names really mean she is absolved of all responsibility if the person she is writing about is somehow identified by something she has written?

Would you trust your anonymity to a person unable to manage their own?

Jim Jones said :

Moose said :

However, as a 24 year old female, I’d like to pipe up for all those Mum’s and Dad’s reading this post getting a tad horrified at the stories.

This seems to be a pretty histrionic response to a fairly innocuous blog.

I’ve had a quick poke around (no pun intended) and it’s all very tame.

…Riiiiiggggghhhhhtttt.

Maybe it’s just me, but broadcasting not only your dating life, but sex life on a public website, probably not the best idea ever. It’s almost another medium of voyuerism. How is that fair on the other party, no matter how anon you choose to keep them, to broadcast their love life?

Boot on the other foot, if you came across this and you were one of the subjects, would you really feel comfortable having this publicised for all of Canberra (or Riot ACT) to read up on?

Lazy I said :

So just to clear this up…

screwing (over) men like a sport and reporting on the minuscule details of her exploits ‘anonymously’ is acceptable…

..but raising with the ‘anonymous’ poster that she isn’t exactly anonymous and she has essentially posted her personal details online for all to see.. is stalking?

Well, considering she doesn’t give names or information about the guys she dates, or set out to screw them over, yea, I think that finding her information, and now texting messaging her insults, a bit creepy

Moose said :

However, as a 24 year old female, I’d like to pipe up for all those Mum’s and Dad’s reading this post getting a tad horrified at the stories.

This seems to be a pretty histrionic response to a fairly innocuous blog.

I’ve had a quick poke around (no pun intended) and it’s all very tame.

swenson2 said :

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

So just to clear this up…

screwing (over) men like a sport and reporting on the minuscule details of her exploits ‘anonymously’ is acceptable…

..but raising with the ‘anonymous’ poster that she isn’t exactly anonymous and she has essentially posted her personal details online for all to see.. is stalking?

swenson2 said :

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

+1

However, as a 24 year old female, I’d like to pipe up for all those Mum’s and Dad’s reading this post getting a tad horrified at the stories.

At 24, you’d expect a tad more sensibility that to publicly exploit every single multi-date in gory detail. Nobody I know does this. Nobody I know would go to such lengths to promote such shaming filth. I guess I just don’t surround myself with people that would do this, and those that do, publicise it to such extent. Maybe there’s a different society out there that would like to model themselves on some silly “Sex in the City” reality, but it’s not healthy (unless you want to end up hanging around with 2 other hookers and their grandmother at age 50).

Write a diary. Make a scrap book. Keep a box under the bed of ticket stubs and little notes. But why why WHY, project this on public a blog? Why publicise said blog? What is the gain out of this other than notoriety for being a bit nasty? And how do the people mentioned in the blog even feel about this? Especially when it’s seem so easy to figure out who you are? How would you feel if you were being judged and written about in someone else’s publicised blog?

There is nothing to be gained with this in Canberra. It’s just way too small to pretend it’s big ol’ New York city.

swenson2 said :

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

Possibly. Real stalking requires rummaging through bins, furtive following along streets, peering through windows. All a few people did was the obvious – googling the name, looking up Whois. If the person posting this decided to insult half the readership of an obstreperous site like this, especially after posting on it previously so she had to realise what she could be in for, it’s a good learning opportunity.

colourful sydney racing identity12:35 pm 19 Apr 11

swenson2 said :

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

People are pointing out a ‘school-boy error’ by the blogger – explaining how they are endagering their own safety by giving anyone with an ounce of computer knowledge access to their personal details including their home address. Think of it as a public safety initiative.

Am I the only person whose a bit creeped out that people who don’t like the blog are going to the lengths of stalking the writer and getting her address and phone number? That’s a bit extreme. If you don’t like it don’t read it, it’s not that hard.

georgesgenitals10:29 am 19 Apr 11

Jim Jones said :

georgesgenitals said :

Holden Caulfield said :

Skidbladnir said :

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

1: Stirring the pot has been enough to coax some resolving action in this case. 🙂
2: Dumb would be keeping details there any longer than necessary, but this just looks like naivete from someone who has never held a domain before, or knew what a WHOIS was for.
3: She’s busily self-educating in website management as a result of comments on this thread, I’ll give her a break (for now).

Yes, I think you should be more gentle from now on.

We were being gentle. Had we posted actual details, or instruuctions on how to obtain actual details, that would have been nasty.

Wasn’t hard to figure out, though, was it?

Um, no it wasn’t…

Thinly-veiled ‘I got laid’ post.

georgesgenitals said :

Holden Caulfield said :

Skidbladnir said :

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

1: Stirring the pot has been enough to coax some resolving action in this case. 🙂
2: Dumb would be keeping details there any longer than necessary, but this just looks like naivete from someone who has never held a domain before, or knew what a WHOIS was for.
3: She’s busily self-educating in website management as a result of comments on this thread, I’ll give her a break (for now).

Yes, I think you should be more gentle from now on.

We were being gentle. Had we posted actual details, or instruuctions on how to obtain actual details, that would have been nasty.

Wasn’t hard to figure out, though, was it?

georgesgenitals9:36 am 19 Apr 11

Holden Caulfield said :

Skidbladnir said :

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

1: Stirring the pot has been enough to coax some resolving action in this case. 🙂
2: Dumb would be keeping details there any longer than necessary, but this just looks like naivete from someone who has never held a domain before, or knew what a WHOIS was for.
3: She’s busily self-educating in website management as a result of comments on this thread, I’ll give her a break (for now).

Yes, I think you should be more gentle from now on.

We were being gentle. Had we posted actual details, or instruuctions on how to obtain actual details, that would have been nasty.

Holden Caulfield1:20 am 19 Apr 11

Skidbladnir said :

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

1: Stirring the pot has been enough to coax some resolving action in this case. 🙂
2: Dumb would be keeping details there any longer than necessary, but this just looks like naivete from someone who has never held a domain before, or knew what a WHOIS was for.
3: She’s busily self-educating in website management as a result of comments on this thread, I’ll give her a break (for now).

Yes, I think you should be more gentle from now on.

chewy14 said :

Do you tell these guys you’re dating that you write a blog about dating before going out with them?

+1

I wouldn’t appreciate being judged and my performance blogged about.
It all sounds a little too sociopathic to my liking.

It’s good to have a hobby tho. Maybe a proper one will allow this young lady to meet more compatible types.

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Hmm…
It only took about twenty seconds to discover a name, and fifteen of that was waiting for the domain lookup to resolve.
Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

Well, she does admit to being blonde.

colourful sydney racing identity said :

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

1: Stirring the pot has been enough to coax some resolving action in this case. 🙂
2: Dumb would be keeping details there any longer than necessary, but this just looks like naivete from someone who has never held a domain before, or knew what a WHOIS was for.
3: She’s busily self-educating in website management as a result of comments on this thread, I’ll give her a break (for now).

Holden Caulfield5:12 pm 18 Apr 11

unimpressed said :

This post is vapid and uninteresting. Your life is NOT like sex and the city and if I remember correctly, that show was fictional? I hope that you do not believe that you are representative of women anywhere, not only just in Canberra. Could your dating problems possibly stem from the fact that you seem to be utterly in love with yourself, condescending, self absorbed and obnoxious?

I was wondering of there is a hidden message in here; no, if there is I think I have missed it.

I went and had a look at the website. Wow. The narcissism…the tedium…the outright silliness. If only I could’ve spent those few minutes on something less masochistic, like stabbing myself in the eye with a fork.

It did have the benefit of confirming my belief that the social/sexual lives of most 20-something women aren’t nearly as interesting as they think they are.

colourful sydney racing identity3:19 pm 18 Apr 11

georgesgenitals said :

Skidbladnir said :

Hmm…
It only took about twenty seconds to discover a name, and fifteen of that was waiting for the domain lookup to resolve.
Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Or your address? How dumb can you be?

This post is vapid and uninteresting. Your life is NOT like sex and the city and if I remember correctly, that show was fictional? I hope that you do not believe that you are representative of women anywhere, not only just in Canberra. Could your dating problems possibly stem from the fact that you seem to be utterly in love with yourself, condescending, self absorbed and obnoxious?

georgesgenitals2:20 pm 18 Apr 11

Skidbladnir said :

Hmm…
It only took about twenty seconds to discover a name, and fifteen of that was waiting for the domain lookup to resolve.
Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

Not a good idea using a personal mobile number, either…

Thoroughly Smashed2:17 pm 18 Apr 11

Nah…

Hmm…
It only took about twenty seconds to discover a name, and fifteen of that was waiting for the domain lookup to resolve.
Stromlo Class of 2002, former 2XX worker?

colourful sydney racing identity said :

Oh dear god – you put your photo on the site? Really? You want all that linked to you on the public record?

Not smart.

I don’t agree with much of what CSRI posts, but I definitely agree with this!

I also think the whole blog smack of too much SATC. If you seem to be attracting duds, perhaps it’s worth asking yourself what you’re doing to attract them?

Davo111 said :

I would be quite annoyed if i took someone on a date and they only went along so they could blog about it later.

Well, at least it will ensure the blogger will remain free and unattached to continue her date blog.

Reminds me of this. Maybe not always a good idea to be blogging about your dates. Fairly sure guys don’t really want to read about it.

georgesgenitals12:05 pm 18 Apr 11

Davo111 said :

I would be quite annoyed if i took someone on a date and they only went along so they could blog about it later.

Maybe even annoyed enough to bitch about it on RiotACT…?

I would be quite annoyed if i took someone on a date and they only went along so they could blog about it later.

Such a shame you can’t “hook up” with Todd Carney, bet you would make a great couple.

I totally understand where you’re coming from.

I recently tried dating an older guy (im 38 he was 50) and that was no better. Still lots of games, reading between the lines and uncertainty. We got along like a house on fire and he confided that he really liked me and I concurred…I was willing to take it to the next level. But then he didn’t call, then he did, then I did, then he didn’t. WTF is going on?

Think i might try dating a lady instead… at least we’ll be on the same page!

Why do you think that people care? It’s an honest question.

Is it a community service campaign? Stay away from crazy bitches that use twitter?

You say that men don’t understand it, I asked 7 or 8 ladies, they say they don’t care. Is there a different demographic group that lives solely and wholly vicariously through some girl who can’t hold down a relationship?

If you can’t hold down a relationship, maybe you should start asking people what you are doing wrong.

Do you tell these guys you’re dating that you write a blog about dating before going out with them?
Seems to me that if you actually get in a relationship the whole blog thing wouldn’t work anymore so it’s in your self interest to find something wrong with them.
Why would anyone want to go out with you if they knew this beforehand?

colourful sydney racing identity10:29 am 18 Apr 11

Oh dear god – you put your photo on the site? Really? You want all that linked to you on the public record?

Not smart.

georgesgenitals7:05 am 18 Apr 11

Brian: “Isn’t Sex and the City a show about 3 hookers and their mom?”

So after all of the great suggestions given to you here: http://the-riotact.com/new-blog-name-required/37230#comments you decided to go with Blonde Ink?

ahh yawn …… another chick who has watched too much sex in the city

Are you the same woman who posted a few months ago about her site that was an account of her sexual conquests? Bit of, er, repositioning? If so – vast improvement on the previous one!

Uptight Canberran who missed the humour within the post – check!

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