I have a desire to one day find my Half Brothers and Sisters and possibly the man that made it all possible, my Sperm Donor. But first let me tell you a bit about my story, and I would love to hear yours too.
On my 18 Birthday my Parents shared the story of how my brother and I came to be. We unfortunately do not have the same donor as we are 6 years apart. Its quite bizarre, because I was conceived quite early in this technology, I didn’t even think they did it back then. I always thought of donors as something comedy movies poked fun at, not something that is the reasoning of my existence.
I have been to the counseling office at the Queensland Fertility Group (Brisbane) to gather information about my biological father. I was told extremely little about him, and the counselor generalised that by his information given, he does not want to be found. But I have since read many articles by Sperm Donors who have changed my belief that he wants to be found. That is why I am broadcasting my story, because Yes! I am looking for you. (Good article by Michael Linden)
My entire life I have never looked like anyone, growing up I used to always ask Mum and Dad if I was adopted. I believed it for years. Even thinking at one stage that Madonna was my mother cause I had a gap in between my front teeth (I was quite young). People in the same boat know what it is to look into the mirror and wonder… why? where? who? how? And it is these questions that have haunted me for years. When I found out I was a Donor Offspring, I was honestly excited, because it could be a means to the endless gaze. But my endless search and failure has only made more questions. Just to think that I could have an aunt, sister or grandmother that I look just like. Or to have my brother’s eyes and my father’s nose. This is why It is of the uttermost importance to me to find my biological others.
The hardest thing about my whole experience is the fact that my Dad isn’t my blood. I love him and look up to him so much that I just want to be a part of him. I want to be his heart and blood so much because it would just be an absolute privilege because of the great man he truly is. The news of being Donor Offspring hasn’t changed one thing at all between the relationship between my Dad or Brother (Half, who I had always believed to be full). Although many people many think it would.
But it was something that was never discussed my entire life and it has never been brought up since my 18th birthday, not even between my brother and I. As much as I long to find my half brothers and sisters, I do believe that I have a family, and they will always be no matter what.
Below are the details of my Donor, its not much but its all I know. If you have similar details or believe that this is your donor, father or you, please contact me I would be more than pleased to share similar stories with you all.
Clinic : Queensland Fertility Group
Details taken at 1993,
Donated 1989 or earlier
Donor Number: 61
Blood Group: B Pos
Characteristics:Caucasian, Fair complexion, Medium Build, Brown eyes, Brown hair, Wavy hair.
Wears Glasses/Contact lenses.
Occupation: Resident Medical Officer
Education: B.Eng & MBBS.
Hobbies: Engineering – Inventing
– Still to this day no person knows about this situation except for my immediate family. This knowledge of this information to some people in my life would be completely destructive. It is for this reason I would like to keep my identity private. If you contact me further, more information may be released.
[ED – email firstname.lastname@example.org if you’ve got something to say to her that can’t go in the comments. Low local content I realise.]