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Internet dating in Canberra?

By jenny123 - 17 September 2011 55

I have recently become single and finding it rather difficult to meet new people especially since I moved here for work. I am not into the whole clubbing/bar scene, so this makes it even harder.

I am curious about Internet dating in Canberra and was wondering if anyone had tried it –  is it any good or just full of weirdos?

I am 25 so I am looking for people around that age group.

If you have any suggestions on where I can meet some new people that would also  be great.

*I would like to think I am not too socially retarded,  I am just finding Canberra is a somewhat difficult place to meet people.

What’s Your opinion?


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Internet dating in Canberra?
thy_dungeonman 4:34 pm 17 Sep 11

jenny123 said :

There always has to be an ass who gets up on there soapbox

His name is Demosthenes, what else would you expect?

As to online dating I have personally tried Okcupid and without having exacting standards (if Idid I would limit myself to about 3 profiles) I sent legible and polite messages to a lot of people, without any reference to any kind of proposition (perhaps that was my problem) and I only managed to actually meet 1 person.

The main problem with a lot of these sites is as gospeedygo said, that they are virtually empty for Canberra, and a lot of speed-dating events I hear about seem to be aimed at on older market (perhaps they think young people are already falling over each other in the clubs). As much as I hate to agree with Demosthenes I think real life is your best option for Canberra.

I also support poisonivy’s suggestion, riotact online dating: for the cynical and high-horse riding crowd, Jersey Shore look-alikes need not apply.

Skygod 4:24 pm 17 Sep 11

Online dating?

The odds are good but the goods are odd.

arescarti42 4:14 pm 17 Sep 11

I had a brief foray into the realm of internet dating websites a while back and was pretty quickly turned off by the fact that most of the profile pics seemed to fall in the category of duckface or extremely drunk.

My theory is you can have more interesting conversations and form more meaningful relationships with something like a cat or a football with googly eyes stuck on it than with people like this.

I-filed 4:00 pm 17 Sep 11

OzChick said :

Mothy said :

* Photos can lie.

They certainly do.

http://www.officialdatingresource.com/beware-the-dreaded-myspace-angles-pics/

Huh? Those women are very pretty – what’s wrong with their size? Very nasty link.

OzChick 3:16 pm 17 Sep 11

Perhaps you can join some online social groups? They have regular social meets.

http://meeting-new-people.meetup.com/cities/au/canberra/

gospeedygo 2:54 pm 17 Sep 11

OzChick said :

Mothy said :

* Photos can lie.

They certainly do.

http://www.officialdatingresource.com/beware-the-dreaded-myspace-angles-pics/

I am admittedly guilty of making this mistake……..twice ;-;

jenny123 2:46 pm 17 Sep 11

Demosthenes said :

I really struggle with this question. In an era where practically every community and political organisation struggles for membership, someone declares that is is ‘difficult’ to meet people. I really don’t know how to respond to this. Every person I have ever met who feels this way seems to have little interest, in, well, meeting people. Um, sort of obvious causal effect isn’t it? Try joining some groups for purely social, networking or interest reasons. You will not only enrich your life and your community, you will overnight expand your social horizons beyond your wildest dreams. In a city of 330,000 largely educated, ambitious and young people, anyone who is struggling to meet people, probably just doesn’t like meeting people.

Pubs and clubs, well, enough said on that option.

Just try for a few months, turn off the telly, get off the couch, and go get active in the community. If you are still single within a 6 months to a year, not out of choice, I’ll personally buy you a slab of beer.

All the highest quality friends and networks in my life have come not through work, but through community involvement.

It’s also a nice form of Darwinian selection – only the motivated voluntarily engage in voluntary activities, so you are mixing with a higher calibre of people straight off the bat. They don’t *have* to be there unlike work, or family, and requires more motivation and interesting personality than a pub, club or p..s up.

And from my experience, motivated people are generally more healthy and attractive too. Give it a try!

Demosthenes said :

I really struggle with this question. In an era where practically every community and political organisation struggles for membership, someone declares that is is ‘difficult’ to meet people. I really don’t know how to respond to this. Every person I have ever met who feels this way seems to have little interest, in, well, meeting people. Um, sort of obvious causal effect isn’t it? Try joining some groups for purely social, networking or interest reasons. You will not only enrich your life and your community, you will overnight expand your social horizons beyond your wildest dreams. In a city of 330,000 largely educated, ambitious and young people, anyone who is struggling to meet people, probably just doesn’t like meeting people.

Pubs and clubs, well, enough said on that option.

Just try for a few months, turn off the telly, get off the couch, and go get active in the community. If you are still single within a 6 months to a year, not out of choice, I’ll personally buy you a slab of beer.

All the highest quality friends and networks in my life have come not through work, but through community involvement.

It’s also a nice form of Darwinian selection – only the motivated voluntarily engage in voluntary activities, so you are mixing with a higher calibre of people straight off the bat. They don’t *have* to be there unlike work, or family, and requires more motivation and interesting personality than a pub, club or p..s up.

And from my experience, motivated people are generally more healthy and attractive too. Give it a try!

There always has to be an ass who gets up on there soapbox

OzChick 2:31 pm 17 Sep 11

Mothy said :

* Photos can lie.

They certainly do.

http://www.officialdatingresource.com/beware-the-dreaded-myspace-angles-pics/

Demosthenes 1:15 pm 17 Sep 11

I really struggle with this question. In an era where practically every community and political organisation struggles for membership, someone declares that is is ‘difficult’ to meet people. I really don’t know how to respond to this. Every person I have ever met who feels this way seems to have little interest, in, well, meeting people. Um, sort of obvious causal effect isn’t it? Try joining some groups for purely social, networking or interest reasons. You will not only enrich your life and your community, you will overnight expand your social horizons beyond your wildest dreams. In a city of 330,000 largely educated, ambitious and young people, anyone who is struggling to meet people, probably just doesn’t like meeting people.

Pubs and clubs, well, enough said on that option.

Just try for a few months, turn off the telly, get off the couch, and go get active in the community. If you are still single within a 6 months to a year, not out of choice, I’ll personally buy you a slab of beer.

All the highest quality friends and networks in my life have come not through work, but through community involvement.

It’s also a nice form of Darwinian selection – only the motivated voluntarily engage in voluntary activities, so you are mixing with a higher calibre of people straight off the bat. They don’t *have* to be there unlike work, or family, and requires more motivation and interesting personality than a pub, club or p..s up.

And from my experience, motivated people are generally more healthy and attractive too. Give it a try!

Mothy 1:01 pm 17 Sep 11

My wife and I met through RSVP a few years back Our advice;

* To answer your question – any good or full of wierdos – Both.

* Even horrible first dates turn to comedy in time.

* As a female, you don’t need stamps. Some norms still exist even online. As Poisonivy says, you will attract all manner of chancers.

* Rule of thumb for any internet dating – the guys that don’t share a photo tend to be married.

* Don’t use a photo of you where you are a bridesmaid.

* Photos can lie.

* Meet in public places.

* Its easier to hit the eject button on a bad coffee date than a bad dinner date where only the first course has been seved.

* As with everything, trial and error, trial and error.

rodent 12:14 pm 17 Sep 11

I used RSVP and it was worthwhile – assuming you’re female, don’t bother with signing up for the stamps. Or do. But you probably don’t need to. The issue with RSVP is you need to be active all the time.
A friend and I recently went to a Single in the City party hosted by Fast Impressions which is affiliated with RSVP. She had a much better time than me. Bit of a plug – her review is http://inthetaratory.wordpress.com/2011/08/30/fast-impressions-single-in-the-city-party-t2-review/

poisonivy 11:27 am 17 Sep 11

+1 for OKCupid as a user-friendly place, although it too comes with the usual chancers out for a bit of cyber-titillation. The user essays are a fascinating glimpse into (part of) the human condition too. Great for exchanging banter with ‘perfect matches’ across the Pacific, HOWEVER, Canberra users are few and OKC don’t advertise. Perhaps we can lead a RiotACT-led recovery and deliver love to the loveless in our town?

My only other experience is with Oasis which, although full of bogans, is the only site that, for me, has led to face-to-face meetings. I think the rudimentary interface quickly forces people offline and into the real world, whereas with OKC you can be cocooned in a cosy chat space for longer.

And while you are looking for love online, do some work to build your friendship networks (joining interest groups, classes etc) – chances are they will be the ones that deliver a love interest that you have something in common with. And if not, at least they will be there to support you when your next relationship goes tits up.

Tune into your community – there’s heaps going on that can throw up opportunities for interesting connections. Stay positive!

gospeedygo 10:31 am 17 Sep 11

I can only offer a male perspective on this. (I assume from your user name that you are female)

I haven’t tried any of the sites you have to pay for but in my experience of the common free sites:

OKcupid: Best designed and user friendly site in my opinion. I’ve found the user base to contain more of your more alternative and creative types but that is just me.

Plenty of Fish: Don’t. Seriously. It’s really not worth the time. Complete abortion of a website where dreams go to die. You’ll encounter more spelling mistakes, mirror poses and shirtless pics than is fit for human consumption. Not worth signing up.

Oasis Active: Better than POF, worse than Okcupid. It’s worth a shot I’d say.

Also from the stories others have told me, as a female be prepared to be bluntly propositioned for every weird and wonderful act under the sun by old and young.

In conclusion as a young male in the depressing and confounding world of internet dating in Canberra, I found all the interesting people I’d consider meeting far out of state and even over seas and the ACT is a baron tundra. You mileage will definitely vary as I suspect this is due to my demographic.

Good luck!

dvaey 10:30 am 17 Sep 11

While its not a shortcut to what you want, there are a myriad of chatrooms on the internet where you can meet new people. If youre really after a lasting relationship (rather than becoming single again), Id be steering away from ‘dating’ / ‘pickup’ sites.

Then again, if you want a shortcut, I hear craigslist now exists in Canberra.

JohnnyCharisma 9:43 am 17 Sep 11

I tried R$VP.com.au, I am on okcupid.com now, which is free so it is cool.

I think the RSVP website hosts some events around Canberra for speed dating everyonce in a while, actually turns out there is something on tonight:

http://www.rsvp.com.au/content/event/act/fast+flirty+speed/35788.jsp

Good luck.

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