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On memorialising the young dead

By johnboy 30 March 2011 24


I went to a funeral yesterday. It was for a young woman called Jacky Clark, she was just 26.

Considering all the news we get about memorials on Clift Crescent, or Canberra Avenue, or the Woden Bus Interchange I think it worth noting the tragic passing of a young person that didn’t require police action on their memorial.

I never got the chance to know her in life. But her husband had asked that a group I’m in attend, so I was there.

Rows of plastic butterflies had been strung from the ceiling of the chapel, which was full to overflowing.

The speakers tried to celebrate her life, but it was desperately sad for having ended so soon.

Having been to the funeral I really wish I’d had the chance to get to know her in life.

Afterwards the butterflies were taken down and everyone was asked to take one home.

I’ve chosen to take my butterfly and put it on my fridge. (My fridge, not anyone else’s)

Every time I see it I’ll remember that Jacky Clark once walked amongst us, and was very much loved by a very great number of people.

I would humbly like to suggest that this is a better form of memorial than a scrawl on the door of the toilet in the Woden Bus Interchange.

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clarkannae 1:38 pm 12 Apr 11

Jacky Clark was far from a “bogan” – She was the sweetest most genuine person I have ever met, and I had the honor of calling her a sister for the past 5 years (after she married my brother). “johnboy” – thanks for your touching post. It is nice to know that she still managed to touch someone, even after passing. Although dreadfully sad, her funeral was a wonderful celebration of her life, and a beautiful reflection of the type of person Jacky was. A bright butterfly – I will never forget her.

Beserk Keyboard Warrior 2:32 pm 10 Apr 11

The difference is Jacky Clark wasn’t a bogan.

LSWCHP 12:45 pm 10 Apr 11

johnboy said :

cars are safer, childbirth is safer, compared to even 50 years ago death is comparatively unknown to us now.

Not saying we can’t do better, just that with a bit of historical perspective you realise how astonishingly good things are.

Which probably makes it harder when someone dies anyway.

That’s the point. Things have changed so much over the last century that these days everybody simply expects to live to a ripe old age and death at an early age becomes a huge shock. .

I visited a historic cemetery in San Diego California containing several hundred graves from the 1800’s, and I can’t recall one being over 50. Most of the people had died between 25 and 45.

We’re so lucky to live where we do, and in the time that we do.

fgzk 8:51 am 10 Apr 11

georgesgenitals said :

KCL said :

KCL said :

Sleaz274 said :

Suicide – “the most permanent solution to temporary problems”

Said to a big group of my peers at uni by a very well respected man and has stuck with me ever since.

And i believe it was plato – “the dead know one thing; it was better to be alive” (horribly misquoted I’m sure)

Hardly an epidemic however, that’s very alarmist and a poor use of the word.

why don’t you try resurching the topic!
But i thought your quotes (even if horribly misquoted) to be true and interesting to say the least

[after thought] -the thing is that suiside’s are never or hardly ever reported on in the news so most people are unaware of it

And there are reasons for that.

Reasons that have been questioned. A recent study has found that disusing suicide in the media does not encourage people to take their own life.

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