Who wants to be friends? Seriously.

gospeedygo 22 November 2010 33

Who wants to be friends? Seriously.

What on earth do I do? I am on holidays until Feb.
I am 18 and I have no friends and am currently unemployed (but looking I might add.)

Would it be fair to say that I am up a certain analogy without a paddle?

I like music, games and all that other junk people tend to do. Who wants to be friends? Can I have a trial run with you and your friends?

But seriously, this sucks the big one.

thereisafire@live.com

(as if this is ever going to be published, why do I bother?)

[ED – while I think GSG needs to work on personal presentation for a long standing contributor we’ll give it a go.]


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astrojax astrojax 10:31 pm 23 Nov 10

gospeedygo said :

Mysteryman said :

A/S/L? Pics? lolz.

14/f/aus. I may or may not be a member of the AFP however.

Joe Canberran said :

For a long standing contributor I would have thought you would have had the good judgement to protect them from themselves and NOT publish it.

I always though I was pretty insignificant on this site. Still do.

far_northact said :

What about you join some community activities. i.e. try dragon-boat paddling, it’s cheap and there is great team spirit. Because you train together throughout the week and have events (such as regattas) to attend on the weekend, you could get to know people and then perhaps, be invited to socialise outside of the sport.

This is one example, but there are lots of community activities that would lead to other social avenues.

You could also enrol in a tafe/CIT course that is along the lines of what you like – i.e. leaning how to mix/dj music or an IT focussed course. Again – potential to mix with like-minded people, with opportunities for outside invitations to socialise.

Best trick is to not focus on how you won’t have any friends, but put yourself in situations where you will meet people in a casual environment.

I just got done with one CIT and am doing another at the start of the next semester. However there is most of summer between now and then.

Thanks for the advice though.

Pommy bastard said :

The RiotAct is plastered with images of young attractive people, just waiting to meet YOU! Seriously, just send them your photo and credit card details (or your parents credit card details,) and soon you could be having hot monkey sex with lots of great looking young people who for some reason cannot find people to have hot monkey sex with by conventional methods.

Or if that fails, try the Joel Monaghan method.

I’ve already had one spam email. Someone loves me I think.

JessP said :

Get a job. Walk through any shopping area and apply everywhere you see a position vacant sign…preferably somewhere with either: 1. young people working there 2. where young people shop or preferably 3. BOTH!

Earn some money, meet some people, get a life, STOP WHINING!

Put in about 20 apps a 2 weeks ago. 4 replies. 1 interview.

AngryHenry said :

Is it a Gen Y thing to just put something out there and wait for people to come to you?

Maybe it’s a just a lazy thing.

Soooo, stop being so lazy and get out there.

Your attitude sucks the big one.

Could be why you’re finding it hard to make friends in the first place.

Maybe its a baby boomer thing to profile people of my age as lazy sods with a large sense of entitlement. (I am making an assumption for this come as you have done you see.) I can assure you that this is not the case with me.

What can one do with no money? It would be great for someone to answer that one. Can I just walk up to people on the street who look my age and start conversations? Hmmm?

Its really not easy being painfully you know so zip it.

I think I might end up volunteering anyway.

ConanOfCooma said :

If you are into gaming, you could try The Barracks, although you may find a good 80% of the clientele won’t want to speak to you unless you’re female.

Any event a reasonably down-trodden venue will also yield some friends. Try The Basement in Belcompton. I’ve met several great friends playing pool there. It’s a pity the Rock Ape isn’t up and running anymore, that place was great 🙁

BTW, why the no friends? Do you have really bad BO? Have you just moved to Canberra? Did you Fritzl your last social group?

Yeah I’m a bit hesitant about The Barracks similar to what you describe. Sitting in front a screen in dark is fun sometimes (hell I’m doing that right now) but its not terribly conducive to conversation.

I am really really shy. I tend to fade into the background while everyone goes on their merry way. I’ve been like that for ages and its really something I really struggle with.

astrojax said :

friends suck. they always let you down in the end and having had a friend is worse than not havinhg one in the first place. friends are over-rated and best left to others to endure. friends place demands on your time and usually run off with your girl and drink your beer. don’t bother.

on the other hand, they might have a pool, and summer’s coming…

Well I don’t have any friends so how would I know?

Mothy said :

You need to be more specific on the “games” – mind games being the sport of choice for most RA posters, and you just volunteered to be the rabbit in the mental equivalent of a foxhunt.

If you meant computer games – try Barracks in Civic, or if a Gungahlinite, try Askelgirl.

If you meant Boardgames – there are some Euro Game fans that meet at the Harmonie German Club mid month. Their last meet was mid November so next one won’t be till mid Dec. A similar group also meet on the first Tuesday night of each month, at the Pancake Parlour (turn right at the bottom of the stairs) at around 6pm. For that latter meeting, the usual request to consume something from the restaurant and settle your bill as you leave applies. Alternatively keep track of events run through Mind Games.

Best of luck.

Honestly when people mention thing I can do, I just want to run for the hills. It’s that painful. I have a hard time breaking out of my shell but I’m trying.

Jurls said :

Facebook is your friend 😀

Its only a facade.

Pommy bastard said :

troll-sniffer said :

If you want real companionship without having to exert yourself, you could ingratiate yourself with smokers of the illegal weed. They are always on the lookout for:

Someone who brings a sample of the latest and best
Someone who will sit and listen to interminable discussions about the merits of various varieties, grades and how much leaf is OK to spin out the mix
Someone who can pass objective judgement on whether bongs or joints are better
Someone who won’t object to general vacuous laziness
Someone who can’t be arsed to get up, leave and get a life.

You forgot the inevitable deep discussions on the the real meaning of “Dark Side of the Moon” and other heavy sounds by Pink Floyd/Gratefull Dead/Frank Zappa m-a-a-a-n…

B-b-b-b-b-b-b-but I like all those groups…….

our-interface said :

Poor kid..
Dude I feel your pain, I’ve only lived in Canberra a few years and I can tell you, it isn’t easy to make friends in this town. But getting a job is a great option. Stock supermarket shelves, work in a store ( actually, don’t it’s awful). Just get out and do something. One thing you should not do is leave yourself open for trolls by posting your email address in a begging plea for friends. People are cruel. I hope you find some buddies. Lots of casual jobs are going, also I’ll just mention NIDA do a yearly short course program teaching acting skills which is always fun, that way you can make friends and learn to act like a person people want to be friends with.

Actually that is my relatively anonymous email account so its okay. It hasn’t been as bad as I thought it would. I was really scared about looking at all the replies.

majorLazer said :

COD:BO anyone? Such n00bs in the Australian servers and bad latency as well! (Mind the Language)

Also 4chan is a great place to start making friends, specially if you like jewish people 😉

I don’t own a current gen console or high spec pc. Plus that game is a dumb American action movie in game form. No thanks.

housebound said :

Find a job in retail – easy this time of year if you just walk around Civic and look for the ‘help wanted’ sign. You’ll end up with money, which you will be too exhausted to spend because of the long days.

And you still won’t have friends, because you will be too exhausted to go out, but at least you’ll have some money …

As I said before. I have done that and…..nothing. There isn’t anything wrong with me I don’t think so that is a mystery.

shirty_bear said :

Cannot believe it took until #8 for the phrase “get a job” to emerge …

I did say I was looking for work in my post.

Pommy bastard said :

So no one told you life was going to be this way. Your job’s a joke, you’re broke, you’re love life’s DOA. It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear, Well, it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month, or even your year. But, I’ll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour. I’ll be there for you, like I’ve been there before. I’ll be there for you, cause you’re there for me too. You’re still in bed at ten, the work began at eight. You’ve burned your breakfast, so far, things are going great. Your mother warned you there’d be days like these, But she didn’t tell you when the world has brought you down to your knees. No one could ever know me, no one could ever see me. Seems like you’re the only one who knows what it’s like to be me. Someone to face the day with, make it through all the rest with, Someone I’ll always laugh with, even at my worst, I’m best with you.

I really hate friends.

Sorry for attention whoring.

wow, look at all those friends!

didn’t someone much smarter than us once say: there are no strangers, just friends you haven’t met yet..?

prob’ly the same dude said ‘wherever you go, there you are’…

or you could try scientology…

gospeedygo gospeedygo 9:14 pm 23 Nov 10

Mysteryman said :

A/S/L? Pics? lolz.

14/f/aus. I may or may not be a member of the AFP however.

Joe Canberran said :

For a long standing contributor I would have thought you would have had the good judgement to protect them from themselves and NOT publish it.

I always though I was pretty insignificant on this site. Still do.

far_northact said :

What about you join some community activities. i.e. try dragon-boat paddling, it’s cheap and there is great team spirit. Because you train together throughout the week and have events (such as regattas) to attend on the weekend, you could get to know people and then perhaps, be invited to socialise outside of the sport.

This is one example, but there are lots of community activities that would lead to other social avenues.

You could also enrol in a tafe/CIT course that is along the lines of what you like – i.e. leaning how to mix/dj music or an IT focussed course. Again – potential to mix with like-minded people, with opportunities for outside invitations to socialise.

Best trick is to not focus on how you won’t have any friends, but put yourself in situations where you will meet people in a casual environment.

I just got done with one CIT and am doing another at the start of the next semester. However there is most of summer between now and then.

Thanks for the advice though.

Pommy bastard said :

The RiotAct is plastered with images of young attractive people, just waiting to meet YOU! Seriously, just send them your photo and credit card details (or your parents credit card details,) and soon you could be having hot monkey sex with lots of great looking young people who for some reason cannot find people to have hot monkey sex with by conventional methods.

Or if that fails, try the Joel Monaghan method.

I’ve already had one spam email. Someone loves me I think.

JessP said :

Get a job. Walk through any shopping area and apply everywhere you see a position vacant sign…preferably somewhere with either: 1. young people working there 2. where young people shop or preferably 3. BOTH!

Earn some money, meet some people, get a life, STOP WHINING!

Put in about 20 apps a 2 weeks ago. 4 replies. 1 interview.

AngryHenry said :

Is it a Gen Y thing to just put something out there and wait for people to come to you?

Maybe it’s a just a lazy thing.

Soooo, stop being so lazy and get out there.

Your attitude sucks the big one.

Could be why you’re finding it hard to make friends in the first place.

Maybe its a baby boomer thing to profile people of my age as lazy sods with a large sense of entitlement. (I am making an assumption for this come as you have done you see.) I can assure you that this is not the case with me.

What can one do with no money? It would be great for someone to answer that one. Can I just walk up to people on the street who look my age and start conversations? Hmmm?

Its really not easy being painfully you know so zip it.

I think I might end up volunteering anyway.

ConanOfCooma said :

If you are into gaming, you could try The Barracks, although you may find a good 80% of the clientele won’t want to speak to you unless you’re female.

Any event a reasonably down-trodden venue will also yield some friends. Try The Basement in Belcompton. I’ve met several great friends playing pool there. It’s a pity the Rock Ape isn’t up and running anymore, that place was great 🙁

BTW, why the no friends? Do you have really bad BO? Have you just moved to Canberra? Did you Fritzl your last social group?

Yeah I’m a bit hesitant about The Barracks similar to what you describe. Sitting in front a screen in dark is fun sometimes (hell I’m doing that right now) but its not terribly conducive to conversation.

I am really really shy. I tend to fade into the background while everyone goes on their merry way. I’ve been like that for ages and its really something I really struggle with.

astrojax said :

friends suck. they always let you down in the end and having had a friend is worse than not havinhg one in the first place. friends are over-rated and best left to others to endure. friends place demands on your time and usually run off with your girl and drink your beer. don’t bother.

on the other hand, they might have a pool, and summer’s coming…

Well I don’t have any friends so how would I know?

Mothy said :

You need to be more specific on the “games” – mind games being the sport of choice for most RA posters, and you just volunteered to be the rabbit in the mental equivalent of a foxhunt.

If you meant computer games – try Barracks in Civic, or if a Gungahlinite, try Askelgirl.

If you meant Boardgames – there are some Euro Game fans that meet at the Harmonie German Club mid month. Their last meet was mid November so next one won’t be till mid Dec. A similar group also meet on the first Tuesday night of each month, at the Pancake Parlour (turn right at the bottom of the stairs) at around 6pm. For that latter meeting, the usual request to consume something from the restaurant and settle your bill as you leave applies. Alternatively keep track of events run through Mind Games.

Best of luck.

Honestly when people mention thing I can do, I just want to run for the hills. It’s that painful. I have a hard time breaking out of my shell but I’m trying.

Jurls said :

Facebook is your friend 😀

Its only a facade.

Pommy bastard said :

troll-sniffer said :

If you want real companionship without having to exert yourself, you could ingratiate yourself with smokers of the illegal weed. They are always on the lookout for:

Someone who brings a sample of the latest and best
Someone who will sit and listen to interminable discussions about the merits of various varieties, grades and how much leaf is OK to spin out the mix
Someone who can pass objective judgement on whether bongs or joints are better
Someone who won’t object to general vacuous laziness
Someone who can’t be arsed to get up, leave and get a life.

You forgot the inevitable deep discussions on the the real meaning of “Dark Side of the Moon” and other heavy sounds by Pink Floyd/Gratefull Dead/Frank Zappa m-a-a-a-n…

B-b-b-b-b-b-b-but I like all those groups…….

our-interface said :

Poor kid..
Dude I feel your pain, I’ve only lived in Canberra a few years and I can tell you, it isn’t easy to make friends in this town. But getting a job is a great option. Stock supermarket shelves, work in a store ( actually, don’t it’s awful). Just get out and do something. One thing you should not do is leave yourself open for trolls by posting your email address in a begging plea for friends. People are cruel. I hope you find some buddies. Lots of casual jobs are going, also I’ll just mention NIDA do a yearly short course program teaching acting skills which is always fun, that way you can make friends and learn to act like a person people want to be friends with.

Actually that is my relatively anonymous email account so its okay. It hasn’t been as bad as I thought it would. I was really scared about looking at all the replies.

majorLazer said :

COD:BO anyone? Such n00bs in the Australian servers and bad latency as well! (Mind the Language)

Also 4chan is a great place to start making friends, specially if you like jewish people 😉

I don’t own a current gen console or high spec pc. Plus that game is a dumb American action movie in game form. No thanks.

housebound said :

Find a job in retail – easy this time of year if you just walk around Civic and look for the ‘help wanted’ sign. You’ll end up with money, which you will be too exhausted to spend because of the long days.

And you still won’t have friends, because you will be too exhausted to go out, but at least you’ll have some money …

As I said before. I have done that and…..nothing. There isn’t anything wrong with me I don’t think so that is a mystery.

shirty_bear said :

Cannot believe it took until #8 for the phrase “get a job” to emerge …

I did say I was looking for work in my post.

Pommy bastard said :

So no one told you life was going to be this way. Your job’s a joke, you’re broke, you’re love life’s DOA. It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear, Well, it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month, or even your year. But, I’ll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour. I’ll be there for you, like I’ve been there before. I’ll be there for you, cause you’re there for me too. You’re still in bed at ten, the work began at eight. You’ve burned your breakfast, so far, things are going great. Your mother warned you there’d be days like these, But she didn’t tell you when the world has brought you down to your knees. No one could ever know me, no one could ever see me. Seems like you’re the only one who knows what it’s like to be me. Someone to face the day with, make it through all the rest with, Someone I’ll always laugh with, even at my worst, I’m best with you.

I really hate friends.

Sorry for attention whoring.

Pommy bastard Pommy bastard 4:29 pm 23 Nov 10

So no one told you life was going to be this way. Your job’s a joke, you’re broke, you’re love life’s DOA. It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear, Well, it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month, or even your year. But, I’ll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour. I’ll be there for you, like I’ve been there before. I’ll be there for you, cause you’re there for me too. You’re still in bed at ten, the work began at eight. You’ve burned your breakfast, so far, things are going great. Your mother warned you there’d be days like these, But she didn’t tell you when the world has brought you down to your knees. No one could ever know me, no one could ever see me. Seems like you’re the only one who knows what it’s like to be me. Someone to face the day with, make it through all the rest with, Someone I’ll always laugh with, even at my worst, I’m best with you.

shirty_bear shirty_bear 4:23 pm 23 Nov 10

Cannot believe it took until #8 for the phrase “get a job” to emerge …

housebound housebound 11:36 am 23 Nov 10

Find a job in retail – easy this time of year if you just walk around Civic and look for the ‘help wanted’ sign. You’ll end up with money, which you will be too exhausted to spend because of the long days.

And you still won’t have friends, because you will be too exhausted to go out, but at least you’ll have some money …

majorLazer majorLazer 10:18 am 23 Nov 10

COD:BO anyone? Such n00bs in the Australian servers and bad latency as well! (Mind the Language)

Also 4chan is a great place to start making friends, specially if you like jewish people 😉

Mothy Mothy 9:55 am 23 Nov 10

Fiona said :

Online dating. all sorts of crazy people out there willing to meet up with complete strangers for social activities that lead to little else :p

Hey, that’s not fair, met my wife that way 🙂

Jethro Jethro 9:11 pm 22 Nov 10

Pommy bastard said :

troll-sniffer said :

If you want real companionship without having to exert yourself, you could ingratiate yourself with smokers of the illegal weed. They are always on the lookout for:

Someone who brings a sample of the latest and best
Someone who will sit and listen to interminable discussions about the merits of various varieties, grades and how much leaf is OK to spin out the mix
Someone who can pass objective judgement on whether bongs or joints are better
Someone who won’t object to general vacuous laziness
Someone who can’t be arsed to get up, leave and get a life.

You forgot the inevitable deep discussions on the the real meaning of “Dark Side of the Moon” and other heavy sounds by Pink Floyd/Gratefull Dead/Frank Zappa m-a-a-a-n…

Man.. you know that ‘Dark Side of the Moon’ is synchronised with the Wizard of Oz. You should like get baked and see for yourself..

Jethro Jethro 9:09 pm 22 Nov 10

Mysteryman said :

A/S/L? Pics? lolz.

/me is interested

Fiona Fiona 7:23 pm 22 Nov 10

Online dating. all sorts of crazy people out there willing to meet up with complete strangers for social activities that lead to little else :p

our-interface our-interface 6:18 pm 22 Nov 10

Poor kid..
Dude I feel your pain, I’ve only lived in Canberra a few years and I can tell you, it isn’t easy to make friends in this town. But getting a job is a great option. Stock supermarket shelves, work in a store ( actually, don’t it’s awful). Just get out and do something. One thing you should not do is leave yourself open for trolls by posting your email address in a begging plea for friends. People are cruel. I hope you find some buddies. Lots of casual jobs are going, also I’ll just mention NIDA do a yearly short course program teaching acting skills which is always fun, that way you can make friends and learn to act like a person people want to be friends with.

Pommy bastard Pommy bastard 5:56 pm 22 Nov 10

troll-sniffer said :

If you want real companionship without having to exert yourself, you could ingratiate yourself with smokers of the illegal weed. They are always on the lookout for:

Someone who brings a sample of the latest and best
Someone who will sit and listen to interminable discussions about the merits of various varieties, grades and how much leaf is OK to spin out the mix
Someone who can pass objective judgement on whether bongs or joints are better
Someone who won’t object to general vacuous laziness
Someone who can’t be arsed to get up, leave and get a life.

You forgot the inevitable deep discussions on the the real meaning of “Dark Side of the Moon” and other heavy sounds by Pink Floyd/Gratefull Dead/Frank Zappa m-a-a-a-n…

troll-sniffer troll-sniffer 5:11 pm 22 Nov 10

If you want real companionship without having to exert yourself, you could ingratiate yourself with smokers of the illegal weed. They are always on the lookout for:

Someone who brings a sample of the latest and best
Someone who will sit and listen to interminable discussions about the merits of various varieties, grades and how much leaf is OK to spin out the mix
Someone who can pass objective judgement on whether bongs or joints are better
Someone who won’t object to general vacuous laziness
Someone who can’t be arsed to get up, leave and get a life.

p1 p1 4:13 pm 22 Nov 10

I was out, um, legitimately viewing new new subterranean infrastructure under construction on Sunday, and saw people doing Archery. Looked like fun. On Saturday I was having a picnic and saw people in armour hitting each other with swords. Looked like less fun, but they seemed to be enjoying themselves. Personally, I was having fun myself, just hanging out with friends*. So really what you need is some friends.

And this post comes full circle.

* – I met these friends at Rovers

🙂

pink little birdie pink little birdie 4:00 pm 22 Nov 10

yay for Rovers. that 2 for rovers!!!! hahahahahahahahaha

Canberra games clubs meet every thursday night at the bridge club in Deakin but the are mostly old and play minitures.

Jurls Jurls 3:39 pm 22 Nov 10

Facebook is your friend 😀

p1 p1 3:03 pm 22 Nov 10

astrojax said :

friends suck. they always let you down in the end and having had a friend is worse than not havinhg one in the first place. friends are over-rated and best left to others to endure. friends place demands on your time and usually run off with your girl and drink your beer. don’t bother.

Maybe the OP should look into a nemesis, arch enemy, chief protagonist, or some other sort of opposition. Then their time can be filled hilariously foiling their devious plots.

Or join Rovers. I spent an incredibly large amount of my 18-26 year old days in a Rover related situation of some sort.

Mothy Mothy 2:38 pm 22 Nov 10

You need to be more specific on the “games” – mind games being the sport of choice for most RA posters, and you just volunteered to be the rabbit in the mental equivalent of a foxhunt.

If you meant computer games – try Barracks in Civic, or if a Gungahlinite, try Askelgirl.

If you meant Boardgames – there are some Euro Game fans that meet at the Harmonie German Club mid month. Their last meet was mid November so next one won’t be till mid Dec. A similar group also meet on the first Tuesday night of each month, at the Pancake Parlour (turn right at the bottom of the stairs) at around 6pm. For that latter meeting, the usual request to consume something from the restaurant and settle your bill as you leave applies. Alternatively keep track of events run through Mind Games.

Best of luck.

AngryHenry AngryHenry 2:22 pm 22 Nov 10

sirocco said :

I’m guessing AngryHenry is not going to be your friend 🙂

Damn straight. 🙂

pink little birdie pink little birdie 2:00 pm 22 Nov 10

Join Rovers… I know there is alot of bad karma out there with them atm but you meet people of similar age with similar general interests.. quite a few tradies hiring labours/apprentices or public service people who will help you through the public service temp registers.

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