21 December 2023

'My dog is friendly' - well, mine doesn't want to be their friend

| Zoe Cartwright
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Not all dogs want to make new friends. Photo: Yuriy Green.

I got my dream dog when I was 21.

He’s not a designer dog by any means – he’s a mix of staffy and staffy-adjacent breeds, and came wormed, vaccinated and microchipped for the hefty price tag of $100.

Over the past 12 years, he’s slotted seamlessly into various living situations, in sharehouses, in apartments, on properties, with and without other animals big and small.

He doesn’t bark unless it’s necessary, does what he’s told (although not always the first time he’s told) and has never harmed a fly.

My fiancé’s first dog is equally laid-back, gregarious and willing to please.

So, please believe me when I tell you that, through no fault of our own, our third dog, Pingu, is completely insane.

One day, at the age of two, she decided she had a deep and implacable hatred for all other dogs.

She considers herself the dog Terminator, and takes her role very seriously.

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With years of work, the help of our fantastic vets, some antipsychotic medication, and many thousands of dollars spent on behaviourists, we can walk her in public, on a short leash, with a muzzle, being mindful to cross the road if we see someone else coming with their pet.

She will never run in a park and chase a ball; she will never enjoy a swim at the beach.

But she wags her tail like crazy and melts into a puddle of happiness whenever a stranger or a child asks to give her a pat. She’s queen of the backyard zoomies and loves to follow her furry siblings about the house.

We know there are plenty of other people like us with wonderful, funny, loving dogs who turn into a ball of fear and fury at the sight of another canine, because we see them.

You know what to spot, once you’re looking for it – the muzzle, the short leash, the anxious scanning, the quick run across the road, the endless, endless dispensing of treats for achievements as tiny as walking calmly past another dog that’s at least 10 metres away.

Our biggest worry isn’t running into another reactive dog like ours.

It’s running into a loose dog and hearing the words “he’s friendly”!

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Just last week, we were bailed up by three “friendly” dogs at the bottom of our street. Running directly at us, barking and growling, they didn’t exactly sound friendly.

They weren’t leashed, and they were very clearly not following any commands from their owners.

With the potential for a five-dog fight to break out, I was falling over myself to get out of there – literally.

Grazed and bruised, I was pretty proud of myself for keeping our angry girl calm and a safe distance from the three approaching dogs – mostly by yelling in my best farm-girl voice for them all to “git OUT of it”, only to be met with “they’re friendly!”.

Whether they were or not is another story, but standing there bleeding from my rapidly swelling knee and elbow, I was a bit bemused by the other owners’ response.

Regardless of how friendly your dog might be, the person or dog they’re running up to might not be.

Have a think about whether walking your dog off-leash in an on-leash area is worth an emergency trip to the vet – or worse.

And while you’re at it, consider that while your dog might be friendly, not everyone wants to be their friend.

Original Article published by Zoe Cartwright on Region Illawarra.

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You need to think about the appropriateness of keeping such a dog in a domestic environment.

The way this dog reacts and the fact it is permanently medicated should be answer enough.

Leashed or not, it’s unfair to stress this dog, other dogs and members of the public any further and surrender it to someone who can give it the outdoors and acreage it clearly needs.

It sucks you choose to use it as some sort of feel-good shield to say ‘look at the good I’m doing’ – you’re not.

This holds true for humans too “don’t worry about my dog, he/she/they is friendly” is not a valid argument for having your dog roaming free and running towards other people. Some don’t like dogs, and others are affraid of dogs.

I have had dogs in the last 20 year with different levels of reactivity. One of them is in such a condition that he is banned from local dog clubs. Don’t get me wrong , I’ve obtained advice from vets, behaviourists and trainers, done all sorts of training, increasing separation, positive reinforcement etc and have different levels of success. I’ve seen people doing the right thing but I’ve also seen dogs left off leash in the streets, running in on-leash local parks. The law (in NSW as far as I know) has changed, dogs can be declared dangerous or a menace if they bark or lunge at people and people felt scared by that. Trust me, it doesn’t take much to trigger an reactive dog. Mine was triggered because someone was standing outside his crate and my dog reacted as he couldn’t not get away from the situation It’s time to promote responsible dog ownership, better understanding of dog behaviours and respect one and other.

I love all dogs, but none should be off lead except at off lead areas. My furbaby is dog shy so any dog bounding up to her is a reactive situation and I’m always scared it could turn from a friendly meet to an all out attack because she acts like prey and shy’s away.

Respecting the space of children, pets and adults is neither hard nor painful. They’re entitled to be left alone if that’s their wish. Even the mildest creature can react aggressively when frightened, so be smart and don’t invade other creatures’ space without consent. That is abusive.

Little kids sudden movements are terrifying for nervous dogs, startling even for calmer ones, so if you value your child you will not let them run at a dog or any other creature.

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